I am at a loss what to do at present and feel like we are sinking. We try really hard to look after mum, even though she doesn't think she need slooking after
My brother and I care for mum ( we are trying to keep her in her own home as long as we can! ) whilst we try to hold down full time jobs ourselves,
I phoned the Nurse at the Memory Team last Monday to advise that mum has been getting more and more aggressive and violent of late (I am covered in bruises at present on my arms and I twisted my ankle last week trying to fend her off - she is not a feeble little old lady!!) this was because I wanted to empty her washing machine and hang stuff out on the line for her, she went mad at me. We are having more and more incidents like this so I spoke to the nurse at the memory clinic who said she would speak to the consultant and get back to me. I heard nothing so chased on Wednesday and then again on Friday. Well the nurse phoned me yesterday and said that she had squeezed mum in for a home visit as an emergency but myself or my brother would have to be there. Sadly neither my brother nor I can get the time off work at such short notice so now we feel really guilty for not being there for mum. So the consultant will not call. ( if the nurse had phoned me last week I could have got the time off as no one else was off work last week!)
Now we have to try and get mum to the actual Memory Clinic which is miles away from us and is virtually impossible cos if mum decides she is not doing something she is not doing it. She has not been through the door since Christmas day and nothing we do can make her get ready and come out and I cannot physically be in her house more than a few minutes as she does not want me there at all (for some reason she has taken a distinct dislike to me in every way. (apparently I have stolen everything she possesses!! )
Anyway sorry to rant on and on but we were hoping that maybe the consultant could just change her meds or something because obviously if she sees him she is not going to be aggressive or violent whilst he is there so invariably they take us aside and ask us what is going on anyway , so I just wondered am I being unreasonable to think they could have helped a bit more without actually seeing her. I could understand it if they said she had to see her GP or something (maybe to check for a urine infection or something) but they have not suggested this at all so now we have to wait until 9th May for her appointment (that is if we can get her there!!!) Any suggestions please.
Maggie
My brother and I care for mum ( we are trying to keep her in her own home as long as we can! ) whilst we try to hold down full time jobs ourselves,
I phoned the Nurse at the Memory Team last Monday to advise that mum has been getting more and more aggressive and violent of late (I am covered in bruises at present on my arms and I twisted my ankle last week trying to fend her off - she is not a feeble little old lady!!) this was because I wanted to empty her washing machine and hang stuff out on the line for her, she went mad at me. We are having more and more incidents like this so I spoke to the nurse at the memory clinic who said she would speak to the consultant and get back to me. I heard nothing so chased on Wednesday and then again on Friday. Well the nurse phoned me yesterday and said that she had squeezed mum in for a home visit as an emergency but myself or my brother would have to be there. Sadly neither my brother nor I can get the time off work at such short notice so now we feel really guilty for not being there for mum. So the consultant will not call. ( if the nurse had phoned me last week I could have got the time off as no one else was off work last week!)
Now we have to try and get mum to the actual Memory Clinic which is miles away from us and is virtually impossible cos if mum decides she is not doing something she is not doing it. She has not been through the door since Christmas day and nothing we do can make her get ready and come out and I cannot physically be in her house more than a few minutes as she does not want me there at all (for some reason she has taken a distinct dislike to me in every way. (apparently I have stolen everything she possesses!! )
Anyway sorry to rant on and on but we were hoping that maybe the consultant could just change her meds or something because obviously if she sees him she is not going to be aggressive or violent whilst he is there so invariably they take us aside and ask us what is going on anyway , so I just wondered am I being unreasonable to think they could have helped a bit more without actually seeing her. I could understand it if they said she had to see her GP or something (maybe to check for a urine infection or something) but they have not suggested this at all so now we have to wait until 9th May for her appointment (that is if we can get her there!!!) Any suggestions please.
Maggie