Hi Clarabella,
Welcome to TP.
I`m really sorry about your mother. Some of her confusion could be from being ill and in hospital but the reason for her being admitted in the first place is concerning. She was admitted because she became ill because she was unable to care for herself properly.
My neighbour couldn`t care for himself properly either, but I was on hand to help. This delayed his being admitted to a NH for a while, but it was inevitable, eventually.
The only person I know who employed someone in the home was a friend who`d suffered a stroke. He had three, eight hour shifts of nursing care and obviously it cost the earth.
I can understand your mother`s fear. It`s everyone`s worst nightmare. But all I can say is I`m absolutely sure she wouldn`t be confined to one room for the rest of her life. There are sitting rooms, lounges and quiet rest rooms in most good nursing homes. Would you be able to do a little research to see what`s on offer.
It`s a heartbreaking task, but for your mother`s health and safety, it seems you have no option unless she is able to afford the private care at home.
I`m sorry I can`t offer anything better. Someone else on TP might have some more constructive suggestions. I remember when I was looking at homes for my mother, it brings it all back. It`s so upsetting. All the best. Love, Sylvia x
Welcome to TP.
I`m really sorry about your mother. Some of her confusion could be from being ill and in hospital but the reason for her being admitted in the first place is concerning. She was admitted because she became ill because she was unable to care for herself properly.
My neighbour couldn`t care for himself properly either, but I was on hand to help. This delayed his being admitted to a NH for a while, but it was inevitable, eventually.
The only person I know who employed someone in the home was a friend who`d suffered a stroke. He had three, eight hour shifts of nursing care and obviously it cost the earth.
I can understand your mother`s fear. It`s everyone`s worst nightmare. But all I can say is I`m absolutely sure she wouldn`t be confined to one room for the rest of her life. There are sitting rooms, lounges and quiet rest rooms in most good nursing homes. Would you be able to do a little research to see what`s on offer.
It`s a heartbreaking task, but for your mother`s health and safety, it seems you have no option unless she is able to afford the private care at home.
I`m sorry I can`t offer anything better. Someone else on TP might have some more constructive suggestions. I remember when I was looking at homes for my mother, it brings it all back. It`s so upsetting. All the best. Love, Sylvia x