My daughter is getting married in July, which involves an overnight stay .
What to do about mum?
I look after mum 24/7 and am very happy with the slow progression of Alzheimer’s, even though it seems to be picking up a pace.
Obviously my daughter wants me to be at her wedding (father passed away) and I would wish to be there.
However I would be quite happy for it all to go away, what do I do with mum? I have decided as step one to ask her if she wants to come. If she dosnt it’s easy(???!) but very expensive, just phone a care firm and get in carers for 24 hours. (I think it could be £700 as we don’t use a care firm)
If she wants to come to the wedding solutions I have are taking mum plus carer to the actual wedding and drinks reception only and sending them home in a taxi (add another £50 to the cost) or.... have carer meet mum after drinks reception and sit with her til 10 pm , I would also have carer in on the Friday night from 5/10 so that I could have fun and frivolity ... all I would need is someone to feed the cats!
I need to put my big girls pants on and sort this, but I just don’t want to.
My sister in law is in the same boat but family have stepped in. My sister was asked to help but won’t, so it’s me again. Mums got the money, without my care she would be in a home so I guess I just feel like I need permission to have a break!!
What to do about mum?
I look after mum 24/7 and am very happy with the slow progression of Alzheimer’s, even though it seems to be picking up a pace.
Obviously my daughter wants me to be at her wedding (father passed away) and I would wish to be there.
However I would be quite happy for it all to go away, what do I do with mum? I have decided as step one to ask her if she wants to come. If she dosnt it’s easy(???!) but very expensive, just phone a care firm and get in carers for 24 hours. (I think it could be £700 as we don’t use a care firm)
If she wants to come to the wedding solutions I have are taking mum plus carer to the actual wedding and drinks reception only and sending them home in a taxi (add another £50 to the cost) or.... have carer meet mum after drinks reception and sit with her til 10 pm , I would also have carer in on the Friday night from 5/10 so that I could have fun and frivolity ... all I would need is someone to feed the cats!
I need to put my big girls pants on and sort this, but I just don’t want to.
My sister in law is in the same boat but family have stepped in. My sister was asked to help but won’t, so it’s me again. Mums got the money, without my care she would be in a home so I guess I just feel like I need permission to have a break!!