Wow Muriel67 and Patsy56 what amazing women and mothers and daughters you both are - and how very normal and ordinary human beings
We all get things so wrong and so right and somewhere in between
And TP has given you the gift of seeing each other's view of this 'thing' we all face some aspect of - and given us the privilege of sharing in this with you both.
My parents were always ones to 'not want to bother' me with their problems and want to make life as easy for me as they could - which made it hard to help dad care for mum and so he nearly drove himself to breakdown - and then hard to intervene when dementia set in with him, because he 'knew best' and, of course, so did I (I am their daughter after all!!) so we went through frustration, denial, anger, resentment, stepping back, rushing in ....
But we were always there for each other, however apparently distant - and I am truly humbled at the deep trust he must have in me to allow me be my flawed self and care for and support him in my stumbling way. He has endowed us both with real dignity in accepting my awkward helping hand.
The two of you will find your own ways to support each other - give and take - the strong bond between you is so clear
And post whenever and whatever is best for you
We all get things so wrong and so right and somewhere in between
And TP has given you the gift of seeing each other's view of this 'thing' we all face some aspect of - and given us the privilege of sharing in this with you both.
My parents were always ones to 'not want to bother' me with their problems and want to make life as easy for me as they could - which made it hard to help dad care for mum and so he nearly drove himself to breakdown - and then hard to intervene when dementia set in with him, because he 'knew best' and, of course, so did I (I am their daughter after all!!) so we went through frustration, denial, anger, resentment, stepping back, rushing in ....
But we were always there for each other, however apparently distant - and I am truly humbled at the deep trust he must have in me to allow me be my flawed self and care for and support him in my stumbling way. He has endowed us both with real dignity in accepting my awkward helping hand.
The two of you will find your own ways to support each other - give and take - the strong bond between you is so clear
And post whenever and whatever is best for you