Hi there TPers,
It's a sensitive subject but one that has hit us this weekend.
Dad had a terrible week with mum - they went away with our church rambling group for a few days (the cost of hotel and everything was paid for by the group as an anniversary gift for mum and dad otherwise I don't think they'd have gone).
Well, it was disastrous. On one walk mum cried the whole way round, on another she kept hitting dad, she had tantrums in the hotel and was slamming doors. I think they were all so shocked that none of them actually did anything to help dad, which I was initially annoyed at but as they only see her for a couple of hours a week in a church setting I think they were shocked about how bad she really is.
Anyway, they came home on Friday and much of the same ensued.
Come Saturday he just couldn't calm her at all - he brought her to my house to see if that would help which it did for about ten minutes. Eventually she demanded to leave and he took her back home. About 30 minutes later he called me again to say would I go round as he didn't know what to do and was going to take her to the hospital.
We ended up not doing as we didn't know what to do or if we should? We couldn't calm her down or control her but weren't sure what would happen if we took her to the hospital - would they section her, would they send us away? Do we even want that to happen?
I'd really appreciate it if anyone could help me as we don't know what to do if it happens again.
Mum is still only on a mild antidepressant which seems to be having no effect at all and again she seems to have taken a real nose dive in the last week. One day dad said she stripped off completely in the kitchen and put all her clothes in the washing machine and yestetday my poor hubby was mortified as he found her on the toilet with the door wide open and she didn't react to it at all.
It's a sensitive subject but one that has hit us this weekend.
Dad had a terrible week with mum - they went away with our church rambling group for a few days (the cost of hotel and everything was paid for by the group as an anniversary gift for mum and dad otherwise I don't think they'd have gone).
Well, it was disastrous. On one walk mum cried the whole way round, on another she kept hitting dad, she had tantrums in the hotel and was slamming doors. I think they were all so shocked that none of them actually did anything to help dad, which I was initially annoyed at but as they only see her for a couple of hours a week in a church setting I think they were shocked about how bad she really is.
Anyway, they came home on Friday and much of the same ensued.
Come Saturday he just couldn't calm her at all - he brought her to my house to see if that would help which it did for about ten minutes. Eventually she demanded to leave and he took her back home. About 30 minutes later he called me again to say would I go round as he didn't know what to do and was going to take her to the hospital.
We ended up not doing as we didn't know what to do or if we should? We couldn't calm her down or control her but weren't sure what would happen if we took her to the hospital - would they section her, would they send us away? Do we even want that to happen?
I'd really appreciate it if anyone could help me as we don't know what to do if it happens again.
Mum is still only on a mild antidepressant which seems to be having no effect at all and again she seems to have taken a real nose dive in the last week. One day dad said she stripped off completely in the kitchen and put all her clothes in the washing machine and yestetday my poor hubby was mortified as he found her on the toilet with the door wide open and she didn't react to it at all.
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