Just thank your poor brotherWhile it easy to write on here, I genuinely wish I could be there for moments of crisis even if it is wiping up ****.
Literally every time I phone Mum there is a new and more worrying or upsetting development in Dad's illness. Today she went out for a well-earned break with friends. Just before she left - my brother stays all day on Monday amongst lots of other support - Dad was incontinent. In her words 'it was everywhere'. My brother had the unenviable task of cleaning up.
He has been incontinent in terms of urine for a while and wears pads (increasingly during the day too) but this is the first time it came out the other way. This on top of him closing his eyes virtually all the time which has only happened in a few short weeks.
While it easy to write on here, I genuinely wish I could be there for moments of crisis even if it is wiping up ****.
TL, I hugely appreciate your thoughtful words. It means a lot to me. Thank you. I try very hard not to feel guilty. Especially the old chestnut 'What if I'd never move away 20 odd years ago!'
This horrible disease is having a massive impact on our family and I just wish it would eff off.
Just off the phone to Mum. She phoned the police earlier. Even though I recommended this should she ever need help quickly (she was reluctant in case they carted Dad off!) it was still yet another shock on the journey. The idea of the police having to intervene to control my Dad's aggression is just bewildering. If you knew my Dad pre-Alzheimers you would know how mild-mannered he was.
Again, I can't thank you enough for taking the time out to listen.
In work but able to briefly phone Mum. An uneventful night after the evening's shenanigans. Phew!
Have good day everyone.
I haven't been close to my Mum for many years but I feel absolutely distraught when she cries on the phone and describes how he has been behaving. I haven't spoken to my brother for months but I'm sure he's in pain too.
My third phone call of the day to Mum. We discussed a visit from the Community Matron which was really positive. My folks are lucky enough to live within the 5 Borough's Partnership in the NW. So far they have provided really good support. I phoned the Matron myself to say hello and let her know about POA.
Dad was snoozing but Mum sounded knackered. He took 40 minutes to walk from his bedroom to the bathroom this morning. He's becoming stiffer and stiffer perhaps as a consequence of stopping taking a drug called sinamet according to the Matron. He was prescribed it for Parkinsons but now it appears he has Alzheimer's with elements of 'parkinsonism'. Confused? Me too.
pahaps;1320980 Dad was snoozing but Mum sounded knackered. He took 40 minutes to walk from his bedroom to the bathroom this morning. He's becoming stiffer and stiffer perhaps as a consequence of stopping taking a drug called sinamet according to the Matron. He was prescribed it for Parkinsons but now it appears he has Alzheimer's with elements of 'parkinsonism'. Confused? Me too.[/QUOTE said:Parkinsonism happens when an area of the brain that controls movement is affected. it gives the same symptoms as Parkinsons and often responds to the same drugs, even though its due to a different cause. Parkinsonism is actually quite common with dementia.