Mum has moderate AD & Dad has MCI. They live in their own house behind ours.
Without a doubt Mum is no longer able to stay at home on her own, without someone being here.
Even Dad is questionable at times...i have told him not to have baths when Mum isn't there ( when shes at her Alzheimers groups) as he has already slipped once.
He just laughs.
Its winter here, and the other day Dad wanted to put the electric heater in the bathroom to warm it up
He puts clothes to dry on the oil heater, which is a fire waiting to happen when all he needs to do is ask me if he can put some clothes in our dryer. ( smoke alarms installed)
When Mum & I are at shopping he gets out the ladder and climbs onto the roof in his slippers to clean the guttering. My DH was at home and told me.
Yesterday when I was at work, my husband was out, but daughter at home, Dad decide they needed more milk. Instead of asking my daughter if we could spare some, he walked down to the shops, while Mum was in the house on her own having a bath
Mum has slipped also, but has grab rails, but only reason I found out, was Dad complained about Mum not locking the door while he went out.
He seems to think being gone 10 mns is not a problem as Mum was in the bath and of course nothing would happen in just 10 mns! Mum will not even wear her pendant alarm anymore.
Dad just laughs at anything I say and fobs it off as not a problem.
My Mum has no traffic sense, and knows that we don't like her walking up to our main shops crossing 3 busy streets unless Dad accompanies her.
But always when I am work ( just 3 days) neither of them think anything of Mum walking in the opposite direction crossing 1 busy street ( with traffic lights and a pedestrian buzzer) to the bakery when I questioned Mum once she said we were keeping her a prisoner in her home.
Something is going to happen sooner or later... To either of them
Neither of them at this stage would be eligible for a care home, as they are still pretty independant at home.
Our Alzheimers Key Worker did say though, due to Mum being the most impaired, that being no longer safe would probably force the issue sooner or later also.
Without a doubt Mum is no longer able to stay at home on her own, without someone being here.
Even Dad is questionable at times...i have told him not to have baths when Mum isn't there ( when shes at her Alzheimers groups) as he has already slipped once.
He just laughs.
Its winter here, and the other day Dad wanted to put the electric heater in the bathroom to warm it up
He puts clothes to dry on the oil heater, which is a fire waiting to happen when all he needs to do is ask me if he can put some clothes in our dryer. ( smoke alarms installed)
When Mum & I are at shopping he gets out the ladder and climbs onto the roof in his slippers
to clean the guttering. My DH was at home and told me.Yesterday when I was at work, my husband was out, but daughter at home, Dad decide they needed more milk. Instead of asking my daughter if we could spare some, he walked down to the shops, while Mum was in the house on her own having a bath
Mum has slipped also, but has grab rails, but only reason I found out, was Dad complained about Mum not locking the door while he went out.
He seems to think being gone 10 mns is not a problem as Mum was in the bath and of course nothing would happen in just 10 mns! Mum will not even wear her pendant alarm anymore.
Dad just laughs at anything I say and fobs it off as not a problem.
My Mum has no traffic sense, and knows that we don't like her walking up to our main shops crossing 3 busy streets unless Dad accompanies her.
But always when I am work ( just 3 days) neither of them think anything of Mum walking in the opposite direction crossing 1 busy street ( with traffic lights and a pedestrian buzzer) to the bakery when I questioned Mum once she said we were keeping her a prisoner in her home.
Something is going to happen sooner or later... To either of them
Neither of them at this stage would be eligible for a care home, as they are still pretty independant at home.
Our Alzheimers Key Worker did say though, due to Mum being the most impaired, that being no longer safe would probably force the issue sooner or later also.
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