Can't sleep, its 3am and there is a lot of things buzzing around in my head.
The main thing is the imminent move to yet another hospital, don't know when yet but told to expect it in the next couple of weeks.
The pity of it is that he seems so settled where he is (or maybe its me who's settled where he is), its only a 10 min drive, the new place is at least an hour each way, more in heavy traffic.
I'm told it will be much better for him and that they can offer him much better facilities, i know i should be happy about this and look forward to him moving on, but for some reason i'm not.
Maybe i feel uneasy because the last time they said that, i walked into the ward to find the person i love and respect most in this world, tied to a chair with bandages, (I could not stop the tears when i saw him) this was apparently done to keep him upright, his head was tied so tight his forehead was bruised.
I know they were trying to help but what about a persons dignity? Do they sign it away because they can't communicate or understand whats happening to them?
Maybe my uneasyness comes from another of these moves that was supposed to be better for him, when the man in the next bed barricaded the ward door and used his drip stand to smash the window and then jumped from the sixth floor window! We were told not to be too concerned about the effect this would have on my partner, as he was unlikely to remember it, even though they had to give him oxygen and sedate him as he was so distressed (maybe i should be grateful for vascular dementia after all!)
After intensive care, we were told by his team of specialists that most patients who have been so ill can die at any time for no reason, especially when they are being transfered, they said they don't know why it happens it just does, they said that maybe its because they no longer have the support of intensive care, one doctor said he has known people to die on the morning they are due to go home and they don't know the reason for it. He explained it could be worry, apprehension, or the loss of their secure surroundings but they just don't know why it happens!
I know i should be pleased about the move, but i just feel so apprehensive about it. I have heard no bad reports about the new place, infact only good ones, so maybe i'm over reacting, but what if ????????.
I'm also concerned about the effect it will have on his memory (WHAT MEMORY?)
I just worry that it will disorientate him yet again. Will this speed up the vascular dementia? Then starts the roller coaster that just never seems to end.
Sorry to sound so negative and its not that i'm not grateful for everything that the hospital have done for him because i am, but i can't help the way i'm feeling, am i over reacting or do others feel so unsettled when a move is imminent?
Regards
Alex
The main thing is the imminent move to yet another hospital, don't know when yet but told to expect it in the next couple of weeks.
The pity of it is that he seems so settled where he is (or maybe its me who's settled where he is), its only a 10 min drive, the new place is at least an hour each way, more in heavy traffic.
I'm told it will be much better for him and that they can offer him much better facilities, i know i should be happy about this and look forward to him moving on, but for some reason i'm not.
Maybe i feel uneasy because the last time they said that, i walked into the ward to find the person i love and respect most in this world, tied to a chair with bandages, (I could not stop the tears when i saw him) this was apparently done to keep him upright, his head was tied so tight his forehead was bruised.
I know they were trying to help but what about a persons dignity? Do they sign it away because they can't communicate or understand whats happening to them?
Maybe my uneasyness comes from another of these moves that was supposed to be better for him, when the man in the next bed barricaded the ward door and used his drip stand to smash the window and then jumped from the sixth floor window! We were told not to be too concerned about the effect this would have on my partner, as he was unlikely to remember it, even though they had to give him oxygen and sedate him as he was so distressed (maybe i should be grateful for vascular dementia after all!)
After intensive care, we were told by his team of specialists that most patients who have been so ill can die at any time for no reason, especially when they are being transfered, they said they don't know why it happens it just does, they said that maybe its because they no longer have the support of intensive care, one doctor said he has known people to die on the morning they are due to go home and they don't know the reason for it. He explained it could be worry, apprehension, or the loss of their secure surroundings but they just don't know why it happens!
I know i should be pleased about the move, but i just feel so apprehensive about it. I have heard no bad reports about the new place, infact only good ones, so maybe i'm over reacting, but what if ????????.
I'm also concerned about the effect it will have on his memory (WHAT MEMORY?)
I just worry that it will disorientate him yet again. Will this speed up the vascular dementia? Then starts the roller coaster that just never seems to end.
Sorry to sound so negative and its not that i'm not grateful for everything that the hospital have done for him because i am, but i can't help the way i'm feeling, am i over reacting or do others feel so unsettled when a move is imminent?
Regards
Alex