Thanks
@LadyA.
Relationships are so complicated. I hate letting people down and I`m not sure which causes the bigger stress, letting someone down or coping with their difficulties.
I hear you! I'm finding a lot of stress at the moment too. I've become the classic filling in the "generation sandwich", trying to give increasing help and support to mum, who's got an insane amount of different medical clinics and appointments to be taken to, prescriptions to be ordered, collected (they take two days to get), left to chemist, collected two days later, and the constant repeated explanations to mum about things, which is definitely getting worse, although I have no doubts at all about her capacity. I don't think she has dementia, I think it's just "normal" old age/ill health/medication effects forgetfullness. And she's fully aware of it, and it really frustrates her.
And then there's the generation below me. Dau, who is expecting her second baby later in the year, is having a horrific time. Apart from the truly horrendous all day sickness for the first four months, she has been in hospital twice recently for complications, has to go again during the week for checking out of a new complication (although she is heaps better than she was), and she's furious that they've now said she can't have a home birth, she's too high risk, which she'd set her heart on! Her health means I've been doing a LOT of babysitting the 2 1/2 year old, who is very good really, and extremely intelligent and articulate for his age. But has a will of iron, and is strong as an ox! I know it's his age, but I'm just exhausted. (
and I'm sorry, @Grannie G for taking over your thread with this whinge! But you know what? I'm going to get it all out now! ) Trying to get her safely to delivery, and you know what?? She's talking blithely about "my next pregnancy"! I think she'd be nuts to risk it again.
And. I'm just feeling completely taken for granted, and full of self pity and tears today. Because dau has arranged something for Tue week, assuming I will babysit. Which I normally would. But Tue week would be my silver wedding anniversary. Since my husband died nearly four years ago, I've made a point of going out for the day on our anniversary, and doing something nice. I've planned to just take that day for myself, and go off. And I know I will still do it, and she can rearrange her stuff. It's just so upsetting that she never even thought to ask me before arranging. I found out through someone else.
Anyway, as I said Sylvia, sorry for taking over and whingeing! Not worth starting a new thread myself, it's just today that I'm upset. Be fine shortly, because I'm going to make some tea, and sit on my behind with a dvd (Sherlock Holmes series with the late Jeremy Brett, who, to me, was the definitive Sherlock Holmes.).