Unfortunately I am becoming reclusive due to being housebound and little I can do about that. I try not to dwell on the losses that has bought about, how much my life has shrunk. What I would do if I had not lost mobility...
But how much would I in reality do if I could. . . concerning going out, socialising, although I would enjoy the necessary local shopping and chats with people I know and who knew Henry well. This was very much Henry's home town since marriage and I would like that connection with him through those who knew him.
I would like to have a dog, regardless of my age, having had dogs almost constantly since I was 13. As you know Saffie, and others, you are never alone when you have a doggy companion, and you have to go out with them. Fresh air to blow away the cobwebs and enjoy nature.
But that would not happen as you can bring a dog with you when you move here, but when it dies you are not allowed to have another one. That does not make sense to me.
Oh, I would go out and about but I suspect not all that much - and not at night. I have a lot of interests and there are events from time to time I would like to attend, places to visit in the better seasons.... But how much would I do now it is just me?
We did do a lot together as a couple, but I also did a lot on my own. Henry also had outdoor interests. We enjoyed talking to each other about what we did on our own.
I enjoyed going out - for a purpose - and also enjoyed time in my home. Times together at home, and times on my own doing my own thing - mainly drawing and watercolour painting and also family history research. All gradually lost due to dementia taking over our lives.
The passion is still there but there are genuine reasons why I have not metaphorically jumped back into those interests - or gradually eased myself back into them. Predominantly health issues but also others which 'intrude' on time.
There is a difference between being able to go out when you chose and being unable to go out because it is impossible to physically do so. I tell myself if by some miracle I awoke to find myself free of the physical obstacles there would be no stopping me!
Or am I kidding myself...would I find a loss of motivation because it is only me now? Keeping yourself motivated is not easy....
I do admire you Sylvia for coping with this so well, it must have been difficult to begin with.... Once involved n something which holds your interest I think it helps the motivation?
I am blethering on here about nothing.... sorry. Too much 'all me'. But what everyone has written has got me thinking.
I would have been interested in U3A but it does sound to depend on the area... and people...? I don't like cliques.
Whatever does get you out and about, circulating, keep on going and long may you do so.
Loo xx