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Discussion in 'After dementia — dealing with loss' started by Grannie G, Jan 24, 2014.

  1. Soobee

    Soobee Registered User

    Aug 22, 2009
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    Oh, Sylvia. xxxxx
     
  2. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
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    Oh my goodness, I do hope that the doctor didn't actually say that. How could anyone face being told that? Poor Helen. Sending you all my love.

    xx
     
  3. sleepless

    sleepless Registered User

    Feb 19, 2010
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    So difficult for you, Sylvia, the not knowing. Could Martin or Mandy put you in the picture?
    I know it wouldn't change the situation greatly, but you would at least know.
    xx
     
  4. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

    Mar 26, 2011
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    It just seems so impossible to take in Sylvia. This is Helen and this is so real and so terribly sad. x
     
  5. Pollyanna

    Pollyanna Registered User

    Jul 8, 2008
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    You've written my thoughts too:(

    x
     
  6. SisterAct

    SisterAct Registered User

    Oh Sylvia, we are thinking of you and Helen's family.
    Thinking special thoughts of Helen and hope she is pain free and comfortable.
    xxxx
     
  7. gigi

    gigi Registered User

    Nov 16, 2007
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    More than anything just now I wish Helen peace. She has bravely struggled against this awful condition all of this time.. if she would only stop struggling now and allow the inevitable to happen. But it's not in Helen's nature.

    Sylvia, you and Helen have had such a close friendship for so long I can't begin to imagine how this is affecting you.

    If virtual hugs are still available, please accept one.

    xx
     
  8. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
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    I am so very sorry, Sylvia. Words cannot convey how I feel other than understanding how distressing this is for all of you. especially Helen.
     
  9. cragmaid

    cragmaid Registered User

    Oct 18, 2010
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    Sylvia, this is yet another sad, sad chapter in this very sad tale. I'm so sorry my friend. Love to you and Helen ,Martin, Mandy and Linda.x.x.x
     
  10. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
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    Thanks, Sylvia, I appreciate how difficult this is for you.
     
  11. Kjn

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  12. Nanak

    Nanak Registered User

    Mar 25, 2010
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    I'm so sorry to hear this Sylvia.
    Did the GP say that to Helen? It wasn't very professional if he did.
    You are such a good friend to Helen. You both are so in tune to each others needs. This would be so hard for you.
    Sending hugs and strength for the coming days.

    Kim xx
     
  13. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,124
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    I really don't know if the GP actually said this Kim or if Helen thought it was what she heard.

    He is a lovely GP. He kneels on the floor so he is at Helens level, holds her hand and behaves as if he has all the time in the world. Helen has absolute trust in him.

    I really don't want to mither Mandy or Martin , we'll all know soon enough.
     
  14. sallyc

    sallyc Registered User

    Aug 20, 2008
    1,674
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    Sylvia this is so sad. I wish Helen peace and strength for you and her family.

    Thank you for keeping ys updated xxx
     
  15. Loopiloo

    Loopiloo Registered User

    May 10, 2010
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    Oh Sylvia this is so profoundly sad and hard for you. I have no words… only feelngs for each of you and Helen.

    I echo Saffie’s words
    It’s hard reading it but you are living it.

    I ache for each of you.

    My love and prayers.

    Loo xxx
     
  16. Nanak

    Nanak Registered User

    Mar 25, 2010
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    I hope you managed some sleep Sylvia. My phone is playing up so have to check in when I can get on my laptop.

    Thinking of you

    Kim xx
     
  17. jude50

    jude50 Registered User

    Dec 28, 2011
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    Thinking of you and Helens family at this really heartbreaking time
     
  18. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,124
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    I`m really OK thanks everyone.

    I think I`m in some sort of self protection mode , even denial of sorts, because I`m so far away distance wise and know there is nothing I can do. Even if I was there there`d be nothing I could do.

    I do know I can give Helen comfort but she has a loving daughter and partner with her and maybe the time was made for me to step back and allow the family their time with her, uninterrupted.

    Anyway it is as it is and I`m fine with it.

    I am sleeping well except for occasional bouts of wakefulness. I have a reaction to an insect bite and was up in the night to take an anti histamine. The night before I was awake from 3am. but generally I`m sleeping well.

    Enough about me. :eek:
     
  19. Nanak

    Nanak Registered User

    Mar 25, 2010
    1,973
    Brisbane Australia
    Good to hear Sylvia :D

    Are you packed for your holiday yet? What is the weather like where you will be going? Do you need woolies or summer wear? :D

    Kim xx
     
  20. 2jays

    2jays Registered User

    Jun 4, 2010
    11,589
    West Midlands
    A vest. That's what you need for your holiday

    If it's hot - just a vest
    If it's cold - a vest under top, jumper, cardigan

    :D

    Looking forward to photos xx



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