Dr has just been, one who hasn't seen husband for many years. He was really helpful though and actually asked what was worrying ME and what they could do to help.Asked if I wanted any intervention on the dementia side, which I really don't because he isn't in any difficult as long as he is in his home environment and comfortable with the people who look after him.
Is going to do the salt referral and also suggested I get the community physio to teach me how to clear the secretions. I am so unused to talking about what's bothering me I found it almost impossible but I feel a lot better now that helpful suggestions have been made.