Well still no sign of any other places, one of the homes that is 3rd choice is going to give the bed away today if I don't decide. I'm torn on this but at the end of the day I have also thought that mum probably wouldn't notice too much given the stage she is now at. I think I am hanging onto what she would have wanted before the dementia advanced, instead of realising that it probably isn't so important now. In terms of distance the home isn't ideal, but I have the problem of my invisibile brother who after doing nothing to help is demanding mum is closer to him and insists there must be a place available. I gave him mums SW phone number and told him if he can do better then talk to the SW and not me. He as usual has not called me back to tell me the outcome of that conversation which I am assuming didn't take place. I am going to ask him to visit this CH today and let me know, if he hasn't then he forefits any further decision making and I will make the decision on my own.
Edited: I forgot to say I have arranged to meet the manager of mums current CH, as she hasn't communicated with me I am going to communicate with her