Thank you everyone for your kind words of support, it has all been greatly appreciated
It isn't over yet, I still have to take mum to the home -which of course is a big step again and then of course there is the ongoing issue of what happens after respite.
I'd better get a sharpie pen and start trying to label clothes, I don't quite know how I am going to do this, because mum won't let me do anything while she is here. I will probably have to take her and then come back and sort and label clothes, pack them and drop them off. I want to copy some of her photos to take too, so that will have to wait till afterwards.
Its inevitable things will get mixed up in dementia care, even now mum mixes my clothes with hers and takes things out of my room -so I can understand how it happens