Thanks
@jugglingmum and
@Sarasa
I haven't told mum that she is going, I have ran it by her (test the water) and now she is saying she likes being here. But this is where we are at -constant flipping between wanting to be here and then somewhere else
I don't know how she will be, but I will take her, Its going to brokerage tomorrow and they will let me know which CH they have found, and then they will do a home visit to see her and whether the CH is the right place for her for respite. If she is too distressed then she will come home, but if she setles then obviously she will stay.
I have spoken again with mums SIL (her long standing friend) and she has supported me on this 100%. My invisible brother feels the same, although I am sure he has an ulterior motive, but theres not much he can do and I couldn't disagree with his concerns tbh, though my eyes did glaze over when he started telling me all about his problems rather than talk about mum.
I am apprehensive how this will go, but I have thought about how she must feel when she is alone here. The trouble with mum is that she has always put on a brave face even when she has not been happy at times, she's a tough nut -but that won't help now as making sense of her world becomes more difficult, especially with no one to keep her company in the day. For me it is difficult, but I have to stop seeing it as an ending and rather a new beginning, though I think it will take me sometime to get used to it