@Rosettastone57 We are not in an emergency situation, at no time have we been -just to make that clear. I think you clearly have an idea in your head that things have fallen apart here tragically -I can assure you and others they have not. The issue is that mum cannot continue like this not just for her sake but also my own sake (heart problems due to stress) which is why mums SW has intervened -on the 2nd May I was in resus with an acute cardiac episode.
Over this time mum has got worse (and also wandered) and because I have raised concerns and requested an assessment, SS have intervened. This process has been complicated by mums instructions to her solicitor which have also now been taken into account (something I wasn't fully aware of). As I have said now a few times I don't have complete decision making power here, even if I wanted to. If I had I would have made the decision a week ago when I was ready to.
As for the care homes I can do nothing more than put mums name down in anticiaption of the time when she will need a home. I have to wait now till Tuesday as this is not an emergency or crisis situation and in any event as I have said it will be a consensus decision -self funding or not.