Lovely. Clearly well looked after.
Thanks marionq. I don't know how much longer it will all last, its getting harder.
Lovely. Clearly well looked after.
Glad that your Mum got her hair done with no hitches. The people there must be well versed in dealing with challenging behaviour or non compliance. I frequently worried about how those caring for my Mum would manage her 'little ways'. I could anticipate what would trigger an adverse reaction or rattle her chain and thought but how will they know without me being there but more often than not they did manage it. Also they were not me so Mum reacted differently to them than she might with me.
With regards to meds- no one likes taking them but they are doing their job for now. Anxiety and Depression can spiral out of control easily especially when you are in a situation that you have no control over. They are best treated with the 3 T's- Time, Tablets and Talking. Time will come when you won't need them anymore. Take care.
Palerider - I think you are doing what you can. The balance between preventive action and avoiding a crisis is really tough, especially with non existent support services. You need to take care of your own health. Hopefully you can continue to introduce the CH gradually. We did this with day visits with my Mum, and it worked well. She settled in well.
Lovely lady, your Mum - very smart!
I think a very high % of us are at risk of carer breakdown. We are doing a job we don't want, aren't qualified for, not paid for, at the same time watching a much loved person, descend into the abyss that is dementia - it's enough to make anyone weep - especially in the middle of the night - when I think most of us do........
Lovely photo. Your Mum looks great. Lovely hairstyle. XxxUnusually I managed to get a pic tonight. She looks like her old self, and it perked her up no end. Its been months since her hair has looked so good.
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It's a relief to have that sorted. I hope that you manage to get more help sorted soon.
Lovely photo. Your Mum looks great. Lovely hairstyle. Xxx
Thank you so much for your very honest and reflective post. I am sure that your story has found a connection with most of us here on Talking Point and I would guess that your struggles with your own mental health strike a chord in all of us.
I have no idea of how anyone could do what you did at the time of the bombings without it affecting your own sense of self and without it forcing you to confront the evils of this world and still find something good and worthwhile.
Thank you.
Like many, my health is increasingly struggling, just keep at it!
It took months before I could arrange suitable transport, now I have two mornings a week.
Bliss but not to be taken lightly! There is a little reluctance starting to creep in.
Now I am trying for respite,
I too had a master plan of a home nearby with a day centre, in my case I came across a county border problem.
It has been agreed I need respite for my husband so I can rest, albeit at home. The wheels run very slowly.
You are right, it is not just about us but everyone else in a similar position. We fight for us all. Sometimes this wider fight gives me confidence as it means it is not just about me.
I feel the present system of county funding is working against the system in many ways and affects the quaility of care. We have to drip drip drip, when we find the energy!
The feelings of being lonely is insidious and often unexpected. We can rationalise out then it hits at unexpected moments. I agree about the idea of a chinwag over a coffee, but this is the next best thing. No time restrictions either!
Sometimes it feels as if we are the new lepers to so many.
It is good to have you on here, though I am sorry for the reason why. Your Mum's photo was lovely. Alice x
Mum has again managed to beat me into submission to take her out for a 'drive'. I can see she's wanting to go somewhere and I suppose in order to keep her in good spirits I will have to give in and go somewhere. I might go shopping but I try to avoid that as mum only adds to her huge stash of cakes and chocalate, which at some point this week I need to sort through for expiry dates. I'm in a cold sweat at the thought of shopping, but needs must as its Friday .....and we have nothing of nutritional value for tea. I will be entirely bald at this rate....