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yes this is mum-hair done clean and tidy . Not sure how long it will last as she doesn't look after her perm like she used to, but for now its enough to give her a little lift when she looks in the mirror instead of how it was before.Lovely hair do , mum looks happy. I’m sorry you are having trouble with your brother but you did the right thing and I’m sure 3rd place will work out just fine .
Hello @DesperateofDevon , hope your on the mend after the funeral and finding a way forward with life.Totally agree with you
Anne Marie Morris MP is writing a parliamentary paper on The current Dementia care crisis
Have spoken to her about these issues, more input required from people like yourself who have vast knowledge of the system
reading your posts right the way through it brought back those memories of our own experiences; I’m so relieved that Dads passed & I don’t have these issues anymore. How sad a situation is that, that my first thought is “thank the lord I don’t have to deal with care home & it’s issues”I too hope the move goes well and your mum settles in
@Splashing About - care homes usually give notice when they feel that they can no longer meed a residents needs, it doesnt usually come out of the blue. Unless you are in complete denial you are aware of things being "off" and there are usually grumbles (on both sides) which dont seem to be resolved. Palerider hasnt been happy with this care home for a while, so Im not altogether surprised
If my mum had died when she first went to a nursing home I think my grief would have been totally clouded in anger at the care system. We are now CHC funded in a NH and no longer struggling to cope at home. She’s safe. The main issue is the distress at watching her die very very slowly. I suspect that’s true for many illnesses (but more so with dementia). I feel it’s given me a little space to reflect on life before dementia. I still hate the disease with a passion...actually made me realise that most of my sadness is about the dreadful situations we experienced; how awful that it’s not Dad & how much I miss him.
just proves that the care system is broken beyond belief
I know I’m struggling with the care home issues, I’m angry that the system fails those it should protect & sad that Dad had to experience it. I think I need to have some resolution now, the safeguarding investigation continues & Dads SW isn’t sending on final paperwork- alarm bells are going!!If my mum had died when she first went to a nursing home I think my grief would have been totally clouded in anger at the care system. We are now CHC funded in a NH and no longer struggling to cope at home. She’s safe. The main issue is the distress at watching her die very very slowly. I suspect that’s true for many illnesses (but more so with dementia). I feel it’s given me a little space to reflect on life before dementia. I still hate the disease with a passion
Hi @DesperateofDevon after all you went through you certainly need this for closure. In my opinion it was absolutely disgraceful how you and your poor Dad were treated, the arrogance of the management of the home was astounding. I sincerely hope you get resolution. All the best.mistakes & ineptitude don’t help as I need to process & close this now for my own peace of mind.
Then focus on Aged Mothers issues.....