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Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by Palerider, May 19, 2019.

  1. Helly68

    Helly68 Registered User

    Mar 12, 2018
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    Palerider - they should do, though the buttons etc take a bashing with all that putting on and taking off. If she has glasses, consider getting these engraved with initials. Try to persuade her not to take in any valuable items if you can. CHs do their best, but it is a continual battle to keep track of things. We had a cushion made with a photo of Mummy's Grandchildren on it and it is one of her favourite things in her room
     
  2. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
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    Where it comes to labelling things, find out what the care home recommends.
    Mums care home recommended these clip on name tags and I used them for mums clothes, also the stick on labels for her shoes, walking stick, glasses, etc. The clip-on tags lasted the whole 3 years she was there and withstood the industrial washers and driers. I was very impressed.

    https://www.nametag-it.co.uk/details/easyfix-clip-on-name-tags
     
  3. Sarasa

    Sarasa Registered User

    Apr 13, 2018
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    My mother's care home marks items for you, which is probably a good thing seeing how much they charge. They put her first name surname initial and room number on things. Fortunately mum's eyesight is such that he has never noticed. I imagine she'd have been very upset if she realised. Last year she bought a couple of pairs of knickers in a size that was really too small for her, and in a style she never wears. They ended up in the care home and were duly labelled. When I realised she had never worn them I took them home for me. It feels slightly odd wearing underwear marked with my mum's name!
     
  4. Baker17

    Baker17 Registered User

    Mar 9, 2016
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    Labelling everything so as it doesn’t get lost in the laundry
     
  5. Palerider

    Palerider Registered User

    Aug 9, 2015
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    That is quite amusing @Sarasa, believe it or not I have found mum wearing underpants, she had got herself confused over what was what when at work, interestingly she chose the pink ones
     
  6. Palerider

    Palerider Registered User

    Aug 9, 2015
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    I just wanted to say thanks and I am not there yet but on Tuesday I will post again :)
     
  7. Palerider

    Palerider Registered User

    Aug 9, 2015
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    Me too and I was expecting them to tell me I had a 15 mile drive to boot
     
  8. Palerider

    Palerider Registered User

    Aug 9, 2015
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    I am feeling better @Woohoo but one last hoop to jump through
     
  9. Palerider

    Palerider Registered User

    Aug 9, 2015
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    We will meet for that lunch and talk about how best to write to MP's @Lynmax
     
  10. Palerider

    Palerider Registered User

    Aug 9, 2015
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    Thanks @Starbright always a star
     
  11. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    Pleased you have plans
    Xx
     
  12. Palerider

    Palerider Registered User

    Aug 9, 2015
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    Now @DesperateofDevon you are my special person tonight, and thank you for your clarity, I will have some adjustments to make over the coming week and you are right, its going to be hard, but whatever this journey @DesperateofDevon we do the best we can do, and whatever we think and feel in the end about someone our ability to see through that takes over and we do what we have to do, and in that scheme of things makes you and I walk the same path :).
     
  13. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    I hope you have some new memories soon of giggles & silliness with your Mum soon. I actually have had some lovely times with both my PWD - being their daughter again & not just the person who sorts out stuff.

    it’s swings & roundabouts at times but you’ve got this. X
     
  14. Woohoo

    Woohoo Registered User

    Apr 30, 2019
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    Hopefully the home will be well prepared and will help you with that . Just as lots of people have said before, you know mum and the best way to sell it to her . I can imagine you will worry about it but sure it will go ok.
     
  15. Lynmax

    Lynmax Registered User

    Nov 1, 2016
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    Thanks for your reply. The issue with the bins is that Mum is registered for assisted collections but her council have a policy of cancelling the service if a bin is put out one week. So if mum notices the neighbours bins and copies them by putting out her bin, that's the end of it the following week! So I then have to contact the, set up the assistance again and get the missed bins collected! I'm just going round in circles as no one I speak to understands how people with dementia do random things!

    As for the Blue Basge, my reasearch today indicates that they are using the old guidelines which focus only on mobility, rather than the new ones which consider if a person is capable of planning a journey and undertaking it safely. I've downloaded a 148 page document from the Gvt which I am ploughing through before I appeal.
     
  16. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    ive never heard of assisted bin collections being cancelled if the bin is out, as I have assisted collection & so does mum but sometimes my hubby if around will pop the bin down!

    how ridiculous, normally it’s just a form filled I on line & that’s it! I think the worlds gone mad! try emailing the local councillor & raising this- elections coming up soon!
     
  17. Palerider

    Palerider Registered User

    Aug 9, 2015
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    I had to protest at the council for not assisting mum with her bins as I am not always here when they are collected. Amazingly this week they did empty the bins, and I was shocked -that argument had been going on for months between me and the council. I also told them not to stick labels on mums bin anymore as she couldn't understand what they meant. I know times are hard....but really??
     
  18. Starbright

    Starbright Registered User

    Apr 8, 2018
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    Thank you @Palerider ...Reading your reply made me feel appreciated after a particularly hard day. Hugs A x
     
  19. Lynmax

    Lynmax Registered User

    Nov 1, 2016
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    Isn't it ridiculous that we have to fight for such as simple thing as helping with the bins? Haven't we got enough to do caring for our pwd!
     
  20. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    The ridiculousness of the lack of empathy with the little things just beggars belief!
     

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