Hmm unfortunately it comes down to who can shout loudest sometimes @Jaded'n'faded. The GP wasn't mums GP so it was a quick telephone review (no surprise there), but what to expect with services as they are these days? They have many patients to see and problems to sort in a day.Oh dear - looks like you're in for a day of frustration dealing with the various 'service' providers.
And fingers crossed the change in your mum is down to the UTI and not a general progression. Time will tell...
@Palerider Any progress?Hmm unfortunately it comes down to who can shout loudest sometimes @Jaded'n'faded. The GP wasn't mums GP so it was a quick telephone review (no surprise there), but what to expect with services as they are these days? They have many patients to see and problems to sort in a day.
Another six minutes and I'll be back on the phone to the SS, its nearly two hours now
What a surprise
As if you don't have enough to cope with...
@canary I'm sorry to hear your news. Thanks for the birthday wishes, it was a trying day with mum not being herself. Your OH must have been unwell to end up on IV's. I think its the time of the year (thats my blind reasoning when I don't have an answer). DNAR discussions are always difficult, but they need to take place, hope your okHello @Palerider
Belated birthday wishes.
Ive only just found this latest crisis because Im having a crisis of my own. OH has suddenly lost mobility and ended up in A&E on Saturday. Hes got a UTI too and ended up with IV antibiotics. He is still in hospital. Ive just had a phone call from one of the doctors asking if I am willing to consent to a DNR..........
Its all happening, isnt it?
I hope your mum improves now with the right antibiotics.
Its all such a worry
After 24 hrs of the right antibiotic and a nights sleep, mum seems more settled and has stopped going to pass water every 5 mins. She must have been exhausted with it especially at night. I'm glad we caught in time as an admission to hospital would have been a nightmare for her, she's very fixed on being at home most of the time.I'm glad they're coming. In case your mum goes into hostess mode, or because she will go into hostess mode, have you written down what your concerns are and what outcome you consider is needed.
The concerns are probably obvious, but what do you think is needed to keep her safe, and enable you to continue working, if you want to continue working. You have to decide how you are want to try and balance your mum's needs over her wants, and also your needs and wants are important in this.
I suspect you need to think this through for yourself beforehand, so just a gentle nudge.
I didn't really understand when I moved my mum into her sheltered extra care flat when the manager said 'she's safe now and you can relax'. I hadn't really understood fully the danger she was in at home. I also still think that only a crisis was going to solve it and was thankful it was a crisis where no one got hurt (she nearly drove the wrong way on a dual carriageway I think - she kept repeating for days that she hadn't which made me think she nearly did - and all the circumstances point to it).