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So sorry today is such a bad one. Have you got a few hours to yourself this week? Can you plan for something nice that you can look forward to?
I sometimes listen to this when I'm feeling low. Not sure if it helps but it's a beautiful song:
I've said this on another thread, but unless a person sees dementia in action, that person, no matter how well meaning, simply has no idea what it entails and the impact the illness has on family membersThanks @Jaded'n'faded , I thought that was agreat song and video interesting how you get the feel she is almost drowning. I'm working long days all week apart from Weds and that will be fun sorting mum out after two days of not being here.
I get so fed up with colleagues and friends not getting how this really is, its not some quirky past time where mum has a few moments, its hardwork, letting her comments and actions fly over my head while at the same time driving in all seats none stop. As sure as I am tolerant and loving outwardly, internally my patience runs dry with moments of complete despair and then on top of that are people who mean well but have absolutely no idea what goes on behind the scenes. The constant babble, the constant reorganising, the constant and the constant bad judgements and comments by friends all makes me feel worthless.
I get sick of people who think things are so simple and straight forward, who have a family to support them unlike me with the invisible cold hearted brother I have and I get sick of having to explain it all over and over and over again, and I get sick of people who are lucky enough not to have to live this nightmare telling me how to live my ****ing life
I can't say that I always agree with you @Rosettastone57 but on this one I doI've said this on another thread, but unless a person sees dementia in action, that person, no matter how well meaning, simply has no idea what it entails and the impact the illness has on family members
Lidl Baywood lower in alcohol & tastes fine to me!! Don’t know if that’s a good recommendation but it’s pleasant!I have learnt a few tricks to reduce mums wine intake at family get togetherness - she enjoys a glass or two in the evenings when at home but as we do her shopping, we know she is not drinking too much.
But at Christmas or other special occasions, we have found it best to celebrate at my sisters house ( big enough to entertain the whole family!) as mum gets so argumentative in restaurants, mainly because she drinks wine as if it is water!
What we do is either add soda water to white wine and call it Prosecco or give her non alcoholic red wine with her meals. Personally I think this non alcoholic stuff is revolting but mum does not seem to notice! My brother in law makes himself copious cups of tea so he is under instructions to give mum one whether she has asked for one or not!
It's sad really how many tricks we have to learn!
I have learned over the years not to volunteer my cooking talents as people forget the poor cook also likes to have a drink and engage in the event they are cooking for.Wow! You kept pretty quiet about this hidden talent!
I particularly like the look of the lobster - more info please! What is the flavouring?
And is it meant to look like a dinosaur?
Making me hungry now! Tonight I am planning a risotto (but with orzo instead of rice 'cos I hate rice) with mushrooms, garlic, shallots, spinach, creme fraiche, parmesan and basil...
So not a risotto really!