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Its OK I know when I am beat and need to do something father ted, I am fed-up of feeling the way I do so I need to do something about it, so for now its tablets.Glad that your Mum got her hair done with no hitches. The people there must be well versed in dealing with challenging behaviour or non compliance. I frequently worried about how those caring for my Mum would manage her 'little ways'. I could anticipate what would trigger an adverse reaction or rattle her chain and thought but how will they know without me being there but more often than not they did manage it. Also they were not me so Mum reacted differently to them than she might with me.
With regards to meds- no one likes taking them but they are doing their job for now. Anxiety and Depression can spiral out of control easily especially when you are in a situation that you have no control over. They are best treated with the 3 T's- Time, Tablets and Talking. Time will come when you won't need them anymore. Take care.
Palerider - I think you are doing what you can. The balance between preventive action and avoiding a crisis is really tough, especially with non existent support services. You need to take care of your own health. Hopefully you can continue to introduce the CH gradually. We did this with day visits with my Mum, and it worked well. She settled in well.
I quite agree, its a rollercoaster of things, never being able to settle, because as the disease progresses we have to re-adjust, and then again, and again, each time a deteriorationLovely lady, your Mum - very smart!
I think a very high % of us are at risk of carer breakdown. We are doing a job we don't want, aren't qualified for, not paid for, at the same time watching a much loved person, descend into the abyss that is dementia - it's enough to make anyone weep - especially in the middle of the night - when I think most of us do........
Yes, she's a sweetie on good days, but can be fierce when her mood changes, I have to dodge her lethal weapon -her walking stick. Getting her hair done has helped improved her self image I think, lets hope it lasts for a while. Very glad I tok her to the dementia complex where they have a hairdresser, rather than take her to her old place as they couldn't cope with her anymoreLovely photo. Your Mum looks great. Lovely hairstyle. Xxx
Thank you Lawson58. I think as humans we do what we do, this forum is an epitaph of that. I liked your use of 'evil' as real world entity philosophically -there are real evils in the world as well as good, what we choose to do about those evils will shape our future destiny.Thank you so much for your very honest and reflective post. I am sure that your story has found a connection with most of us here on Talking Point and I would guess that your struggles with your own mental health strike a chord in all of us.
I have no idea of how anyone could do what you did at the time of the bombings without it affecting your own sense of self and without it forcing you to confront the evils of this world and still find something good and worthwhile.
Yes I thought I might have the same county border problem with the day care, but I remembered that where it is falls within Cheshire -just.Like many, my health is increasingly struggling, just keep at it!
It took months before I could arrange suitable transport, now I have two mornings a week.
Bliss but not to be taken lightly! There is a little reluctance starting to creep in.
Now I am trying for respite,
I too had a master plan of a home nearby with a day centre, in my case I came across a county border problem.
It has been agreed I need respite for my husband so I can rest, albeit at home. The wheels run very slowly.
Its certainly not an equitable system, thats for sure.You are right, it is not just about us but everyone else in a similar position. We fight for us all. Sometimes this wider fight gives me confidence as it means it is not just about me.
I feel the present system of county funding is working against the system in many ways and affects the quaility of care. We have to drip drip drip, when we find the energy!
The feelings of being lonely is insidious and often unexpected. We can rationalise out then it hits at unexpected moments. I agree about the idea of a chinwag over a coffee, but this is the next best thing. No time restrictions either!
Sometimes it feels as if we are the new lepers to so many.
It is good to have you on here, though I am sorry for the reason why. Your Mum's photo was lovely. Alice x
XxxxMum has again managed to beat me into submission to take her out for a 'drive'. I can see she's wanting to go somewhere and I suppose in order to keep her in good spirits I will have to give in and go somewhere. I might go shopping but I try to avoid that as mum only adds to her huge stash of cakes and chocalate, which at some point this week I need to sort through for expiry dates. I'm in a cold sweat at the thought of shopping, but needs must as its Friday .....and we have nothing of nutritional value for tea. I will be entirely bald at this rate....