Hello all,
Just to update you on our Mum. Previous posts have described her wonderful assisted living accomodation, her recurrent UTIs, the Prozac saga and the possible C.Diff. and continuing falls
Well after 4 weeks in hospital Mum came home bright eyed and bushy tailed last Monday - it lasted about 4 hours- until severe diarrhoea hit again. This has now cleared and we assume its not a superbug (the GP said we would be called if the tests showed anything nasty) BUT as ever, Mums dementia has deteriorated so much this week that the District Nurse was talking "place of safety" by Tuesday p.m.
During her month long stay in hospital sister and I were so concerned , that after reading the great posts on "what to look for " - we visited all the local EMI homes we could find - never really dreaming we would need to look for certain but trying to plan ahead. Ha!
Well within 7 days since her release the dreaded day has almost arrived - sister and I have been on call all day every day this week because the carers at the assisted scheme can't cope (Mum won't co-operate at all) She's totally incontinent - and yesterday we had to get her out of bed after 15 hours without a change of pad. She is hardly eating or drinking and refuses to open her eyes for more than about a minute at a time , won't leave her chair and won't even put her feet on the ground to walk properly.
Knowing our Mum we know that some of the eye closing is total avoidance but following urgent calls to the SW team she was assessed today and is going into an EMI home at the end of this week. A new EMI residential wing in a very highly thought of CH and although the entrance etc is not the poshest in the world (but suits old ladies down to the ground )we were able to speak to other residents who have all been there for years and think very highly of "their" home.
So that's it and its come so quickly that we're shell shocked - the SW told us to go ahead - not to worry about the financial assessment as she could be classed as respite until things are sorted .
If you've read any of my other posts you'll realise that I generally try to deal with things by usually going super practical and active but today I just cried with relief. Relief that hopefully our lovely Mum will get the good care she deserves and (guilt monster here ) relief that we won't have to cope daily any more with all the awful things that AZ does.
Love to all and I'll update on how the move goes and again special thanks to Margarita who - in the middle of all this stress - managed to make me shriek out loud with laughter re telling her mother that the talking alarm clock was God speaking !"!
And I think more thanks to everyone on TP who, by sharing their experiences have made our crises just that little bit easier to bear.
Regards
Germain
Just to update you on our Mum. Previous posts have described her wonderful assisted living accomodation, her recurrent UTIs, the Prozac saga and the possible C.Diff. and continuing falls
Well after 4 weeks in hospital Mum came home bright eyed and bushy tailed last Monday - it lasted about 4 hours- until severe diarrhoea hit again. This has now cleared and we assume its not a superbug (the GP said we would be called if the tests showed anything nasty) BUT as ever, Mums dementia has deteriorated so much this week that the District Nurse was talking "place of safety" by Tuesday p.m.
During her month long stay in hospital sister and I were so concerned , that after reading the great posts on "what to look for " - we visited all the local EMI homes we could find - never really dreaming we would need to look for certain but trying to plan ahead. Ha!
Well within 7 days since her release the dreaded day has almost arrived - sister and I have been on call all day every day this week because the carers at the assisted scheme can't cope (Mum won't co-operate at all) She's totally incontinent - and yesterday we had to get her out of bed after 15 hours without a change of pad. She is hardly eating or drinking and refuses to open her eyes for more than about a minute at a time , won't leave her chair and won't even put her feet on the ground to walk properly.
Knowing our Mum we know that some of the eye closing is total avoidance but following urgent calls to the SW team she was assessed today and is going into an EMI home at the end of this week. A new EMI residential wing in a very highly thought of CH and although the entrance etc is not the poshest in the world (but suits old ladies down to the ground )we were able to speak to other residents who have all been there for years and think very highly of "their" home.
So that's it and its come so quickly that we're shell shocked - the SW told us to go ahead - not to worry about the financial assessment as she could be classed as respite until things are sorted .
If you've read any of my other posts you'll realise that I generally try to deal with things by usually going super practical and active but today I just cried with relief. Relief that hopefully our lovely Mum will get the good care she deserves and (guilt monster here ) relief that we won't have to cope daily any more with all the awful things that AZ does.
Love to all and I'll update on how the move goes and again special thanks to Margarita who - in the middle of all this stress - managed to make me shriek out loud with laughter re telling her mother that the talking alarm clock was God speaking !"!
And I think more thanks to everyone on TP who, by sharing their experiences have made our crises just that little bit easier to bear.
Regards
Germain