Mum went for respite on Friday with the hope she would settle and stay. After a bad first day she is reasonably settled BUT dad wants her home. This is the 3rd attempt at respite in a couple of months and each time wants her back after a couple of days, mainly because he misses her, but says he doesn't like the home, staff, mum is upset etc. Respite is because dad was exhausted with being up at night and he is 88 himself with high blood pressure and atrial fibrillation. Social Services have been involved so I tell him they won't be happy if mum just comes out again cause he wasn't coping before and nothing has changed. For mum's sake I want to leave her put but it's making dad more ill than he was before. What do we do?