I've been reading posts on TP for a while and am very aware that my situation with my sister (79, diagnosed with Alzheimers July 2013) is nowhere near as stressful or difficult as many on this site, but this weekend has really got me down. Yesterday, we had an appointment for K to have her flu jab - didnt want to go, didnt see why she should go, convinced she had never been before, why did she have to go this year? Eventually got her in the car with promises of calling at a cafe she likes afterwards, and the deed was done!! Back to her house - hoovered the living room and found a cache of pills scattered around the carpet in a corner of the room - I knew there was no point in asking about them as she would deny that they were hers. The home care person who visits in the mornings gives her her meds each day - I will have a chat with her tomorrow - K must be hiding the meds and pretending to take them. Found a pot in the freezer with goodness only knows what in it - growing a very interesting variety of mould - K didn't put it there, I must have put it there when I was in a few days ago - cleaned it out and threw out the offending foodstuff. Spent a couple of hours in the garden clearing out the weeds between the paving stones, but didnt have time to finish the job - told K I would finish it when I am in on Wednesday of next week as I will have a longer visit - she tells me today she "thought she would just finish the job herself today as I was taking so long to do it" - then complained later in the day that her hip is sore and its all my fault because she had to finish the garden herself. I know its not K's fault, and most of the time she is managing well with the home care and myself dealing with things for her, but right at this moment I am dreading phoning her in the morning (I phone each morning and evening and visit as often as I can) because I dont think I can keep up the "compassionate communication" if she keeps repeatedly telling me that she needs to go to visit our older sister (88) as she hasnt seen her in years - we were on holiday with her 2 months ago and K would not be safe travelling on her own, and I cant drop everything to take her (250 miles single trip) Sorry for the moan, but its just suddenly got to me today - a good nights sleep and I hope I will pick myself up again and get on with things tomorrow. Thanks for listening.