Hi all Im not from the UK. TP member for 6 yrs.
I care for my Dad 82 with mild mixed dementia. He lives behind me.,
Mum 78 is in end stage Alzheimers and in care.
In the past 2 months Dad has changed somewhat.
No longer as argumentative, or quite his jokey self. ( good for me , but not his usual self)
He has gone from one extreme to another, as far as his visits to his sportsclub.
Generally goes once or twice a week for 4-5 hrs at a time.
3 months ago he won money gambling and was there 14 days out of 18
In recent weeks he’s only been going once a week for just 2 hrs, despite having money to go if he pleased.
When I question him he says he does’nt know anyone. He has one good friend who goes with him most weeks.
This has all coincided with 3 recent events.
He forgot he put food in his oven to cook, and when we got home his smoke alarm was going and kitchen full of smoke.
He says he had a fall getting out the bath.. we thought minor. Didnt complain about anything until almost 10 days later he was limping. Took him to the Drs who xrayed it and hes badly sprained his ankle. It is much better now though.
From the original fall or another one we dont know?
Also Mum has deteriorated again. Barely any recognition, communication let alone a smile.
Last night when checking up on Dad he told me that something worried him when he was in bed the other night.
He said he got a fright, as if someone was wrapping him up tight and he couldnt get out.
This one is hard to know if a dream, or some other fleeting medical event... eg chest pains
Dads communication even before dementia was always poor.
He refuses all care, and all other attempts for socialisation.
I dont know if I should get our case worker from Dementia Society to see him.... as without a doubt he will be on host mode.
I care for my Dad 82 with mild mixed dementia. He lives behind me.,
Mum 78 is in end stage Alzheimers and in care.
In the past 2 months Dad has changed somewhat.
No longer as argumentative, or quite his jokey self. ( good for me , but not his usual self)
He has gone from one extreme to another, as far as his visits to his sportsclub.
Generally goes once or twice a week for 4-5 hrs at a time.
3 months ago he won money gambling and was there 14 days out of 18
In recent weeks he’s only been going once a week for just 2 hrs, despite having money to go if he pleased.
When I question him he says he does’nt know anyone. He has one good friend who goes with him most weeks.
This has all coincided with 3 recent events.
He forgot he put food in his oven to cook, and when we got home his smoke alarm was going and kitchen full of smoke.
He says he had a fall getting out the bath.. we thought minor. Didnt complain about anything until almost 10 days later he was limping. Took him to the Drs who xrayed it and hes badly sprained his ankle. It is much better now though.
From the original fall or another one we dont know?
Also Mum has deteriorated again. Barely any recognition, communication let alone a smile.
Last night when checking up on Dad he told me that something worried him when he was in bed the other night.
He said he got a fright, as if someone was wrapping him up tight and he couldnt get out.
This one is hard to know if a dream, or some other fleeting medical event... eg chest pains
Dads communication even before dementia was always poor.
He refuses all care, and all other attempts for socialisation.
I dont know if I should get our case worker from Dementia Society to see him.... as without a doubt he will be on host mode.
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