I found this while browsing, and thought we could all do with a reminder:
http://www.alzheimers.org.uk/talkingpoint/discuss/showthread.php?t=2730
I have the right:
-to take care of myself. This is not an act of selfishmess. It will give me the capacity to take better care of my relative.
-to seek help from others even though my relative may object. I recognize the limits of my own endurance and strength.
-to maintain facets of my own life that do not include the person I care for, just as I would if he or she were healthy.
-I know that I do everything that I reasonably can for this person, and I have the right to do some things just for myself.
-to get angry, be depressed, and express other difficult feelings occasionally.
-to reject any attempt by my relative (either conscious or unconscious) to manipulate me through guilt, anger or depression.
-to receive consideration, affection, forgiveness, and acceptance for what I do for my loved one for as long as I offer these qualities in return.
-to take pride in what I am accoomplishing and to applaud the courage it has sometimes taken to meet the needs of my relative.
-to protect my individuality and my right to make a life for myself that will sustain me in the time when my relative no longer needs my full-time help.
-to expect and demand that as new strides are made in finding resources to aid physically and mentally impaired older persons in our country, similar strides will be made toward aiding and supporting caregivers.
Hope you don't mind - I'm adding the reference to this
"Caregiving: Helping an Aging Loved One" by Jo Horne, AARP Books, 1985, ISBN 0673248224
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http://www.alzheimers.org.uk/talkingpoint/discuss/showthread.php?t=2730
I have the right:
-to take care of myself. This is not an act of selfishmess. It will give me the capacity to take better care of my relative.
-to seek help from others even though my relative may object. I recognize the limits of my own endurance and strength.
-to maintain facets of my own life that do not include the person I care for, just as I would if he or she were healthy.
-I know that I do everything that I reasonably can for this person, and I have the right to do some things just for myself.
-to get angry, be depressed, and express other difficult feelings occasionally.
-to reject any attempt by my relative (either conscious or unconscious) to manipulate me through guilt, anger or depression.
-to receive consideration, affection, forgiveness, and acceptance for what I do for my loved one for as long as I offer these qualities in return.
-to take pride in what I am accoomplishing and to applaud the courage it has sometimes taken to meet the needs of my relative.
-to protect my individuality and my right to make a life for myself that will sustain me in the time when my relative no longer needs my full-time help.
-to expect and demand that as new strides are made in finding resources to aid physically and mentally impaired older persons in our country, similar strides will be made toward aiding and supporting caregivers.
Hope you don't mind - I'm adding the reference to this
"Caregiving: Helping an Aging Loved One" by Jo Horne, AARP Books, 1985, ISBN 0673248224
Nada