Hello, I stumbled across this site the other day and thought i would post and see if anyone has any information they can give. My boyfriend is 24, his father passed away about 3 weeks ago. His mother has not been officially diagnosed with AD which might not be all that helpful but she certainly seems to have a lot of the signs of it and Andy often tells people that she is Alzheimic. Andy has had to give up uni to care for his parents since his father became unable to care for his mum as he crushed some of his vertebrae. People keep saying that this fact should be more than enough for someone to step in and help but we dont know who is meant to give this help in light of his circumstances. And what help is he entitled to? His mum has carers in the morning and evening to get her in and out of bed. Cathy cannot weight bear and as such has a hoist to get her into a bed which is downstairs. She only gets a bed bath, the carers put her in increasingly dirty clothes - they never have the initiative to ask for clean ones, and hurry her to eat her dinner in a manner so abrupt it makes me angry. They dont care, they're appalling but we dont know what to do, she needs carers. Since Andy's father passed away his mum has become increasingly unstable. Well not unstable, but she appears to be developing compulsions such as pulling her hair out in clumps (she's now developing a bald patch) and furiously scratching the ezcema on her hand and foot. She's been more or less housebound for nearly a year owing to the fact the council claim to not be able to afford a ramp for her to get out of the house and to the day centre. I feel a bit like im rambling, there's so much information, she had a massive stroke about 20 years ago, could her current state stem from that? And how do we get things to go in and stay in, for example, the fact that Jerry is no longer alive. It's heartbreaking that she asks every 30 seconds and its getting more than a little frustrating for Andy, who is normally a very patient guy. I was with them yesterday and it was even starting to annoy me slightly, which must sound awful but it's just constant. How do we go about sorting things out because i worry Andy wont be able to take it for very long. Any help or advice greatly appreciated. Amy.