1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

5 hours of constantly changing incontinence pants

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by exhausted 2015, Oct 5, 2015.

  1. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    Would you believe that I have just spent 5 hours doing nothing but changing my dad's incontinence pants and cleaning floors also cleaning him I cannot make dad understand that it is better to keep his pants up and mess them rather than soil the floor but tonight he has been doing it in his pants before reaching the toilet but when he pulls his pants down it has either been falling out or he has been ejecting it I think that he is having a flare up of his diverticular disease...finally got him to bed after taking his donepezil but now he's trotting round up there like a spring chicken I am tired out and know that it's going to be another night without any sleep... So just poured myself a glass of wine.. Moan over going to enjoy my ros' e. xxx sorry if the post is a little disjointed but that's how I am feeling xx
     
  2. tryingmybest

    tryingmybest Registered User

    May 22, 2015
    613
    Female
    Oh you poor thing. No advice really but just wanted to send a hug to you and hope you enjoy your wine and your night isn't as bad as you're expecting and you get some rest. Xx
     
  3. chick1962

    chick1962 Registered User

    Apr 3, 2014
    11,265
    Female
    near Folkestone
    I am also on night shift , sorry it has been such a difficult day for you. Hope the wine is going down a treat?! Hugs xxx


    Sent from my iPhone using Talking Point
     
  4. Mrsbusy

    Mrsbusy Registered User

    Aug 15, 2015
    356
    Hi, hope the wine did the trick! My mum has diverticula r, which we find makes her go to the loo a lot and she uses pull ups too. I've started putting an anti diarrhoea tablet in with her medication once a day and it does seem to help, not so many visits. I know it's important that with diverticula r they don't become constipated but this one a day tablet does do the trick. Another tip for helping with loose bowels is marshmallows, and jellies as in jelly babies or kids jelly sweets. I know your dad may still need to be changed a lot but if it's not so messy to clear up these may help.

    Well done you for dealing with it all, another medal to an unsung hero I think. Just keep a stock in the wine too!
     
  5. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    Hello again mrsbusy thank you for the advice did think of giving dad an immodium.. Will try now that I know someone else gives this for diverticulitis. Will also try the jellies.. Thank you... I enjoyed my wine last night but had yet another sleepless night... During the day dad seems at deaths door but in the evening after he has taken his donepezil he seems to come alive and does not sleep and won't stay in bed.. Got a weeks respite at weekend so will be catching up on some sleep.. Thanks again all for your responses and wishes xxxx
    .....
     
  6. Leswi

    Leswi Registered User

    Jul 13, 2014
    120
    Bedfordshire
    Just wondering , could dad have his Donepezil in the morning to see if it changes his evening temperament?
     
  7. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    Hi yes I have been thinking about him taking it in the morning... Would have to ask at memory clinic wouldn't I... Xxx
     
  8. arielsmelody

    arielsmelody Registered User

    Jul 16, 2015
    511
    Apologies, you've probably already thought of this, but do make sure that your dad is drinking enough if his stomach is that upset so he doesn't get dehydrated. Dioralyte would be the best thing if you can persuade him to drink it.
     
  9. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    Hi thank you yes I try to get him to drink as much as I can he pulls his face at water but I do get him to drink some.. Now if it were cups of tea he would drink them all day lol xx I
     
  10. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    9,390
    Female
    South coast
    Cups of tea are mostly water with some calories, vitamins and calcium from the milk...
     
  11. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    I do hope you managed to get some rest, I can well understand why you chose your username!

    I absolutely agree with the suggestions and comments thus far - an imodium will not do any harm and might make things more pleasant for both of you. Switching the donepezil to the morning also sounds eminently sensible and I, personally, I would probably try without reference to the MC (that is entirely up to you of course, I have a healthcare background and am probably more confident when juggling meds than some people). I also agree with the comment about tea. There is nothing magical about water, per se, any fluid - other than alcohol - will hydrate so don't fight a battle if you don't need to!

    Here's hoping that you have a quiet evening/night today!
     
  12. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
    11,496
    Female
    London
    Donepezil can be taken morning or evening. There is no need to refer back to the Memory Clinic at all, especially as it's usually the GP who continues prescribing it. Once I went to the GP for something like that but only so that he would alter the instruction on the label so any nurse who has to give medication as instructed would know.
     
  13. Leswi

    Leswi Registered User

    Jul 13, 2014
    120
    Bedfordshire
    Mum used to take her Donepezil in the morning.
     
  14. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    Thanks all!!!

    Thanks to everyone for their suggestions I am going to switch dad's donepezil to mornings.. To start with i gave him to him this afternoon and tomorrow it will be in with his morning meds... Just hope I don't get my wrists slapped by the memory clinic lol but then they don't have the sleepless nights.. About the immodium I am going to try that also
    So thanks again to you all
    Just hope it will make a difference at night.. And yes I have a supply of wine in the rack xxx
     
  15. Mrsbusy

    Mrsbusy Registered User

    Aug 15, 2015
    356
    Just a cost saving tip, don't buy Imodium at £3 plus just buy the shop brand of the same drug for £1 exactly the same thing.
     
  16. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    Thank you again do they work the same then xxx
     

Share This Page

  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.