i just got a phone call this morning from mum’s care Home.
She moved there from hospital after passing out at her home back in June.
She seemed to settle well into her home for the first couple of months while I was having my daughter. Being a busy first time mum I didn’t get the chance to visit her at her New Home as often as I used to when I cared for her at her own flat, maybe once or twice a week.
Since Xmas every time I tried to visit with her baby granddaughter she’s been asleep, very deeply, and they told me she’d been refusing to get up, socialise etc
She’s had a couple of run ins with other residents, one threw a cold cup of tea at her so she lunged at him and the more recent one was a woman wandered into her room and she threw her out
I think that one really shook her and since then they’ve made an effort to keep the lady from wandering down mum’s corridor.
I’m finding it super stressful knowing mum is lashing out for obvious reasons. She had a horrible childhood and I’m scared with all the layers dementia has taken away all that is left is that scared angry child.
This morning the night nurse told me mum has been squarely refusing to leave her room for over three days. Won’t talk to them, won’t use her ensuite and has made messes on her room’s floor, has refused all food and medication.
I don’t really know what to do. I asked them what do they usually do in this situation and they mentioned getting her GP involved. I’m due to go in later to try and get her to eat and hopefully the GP will be around.
And his sounds horrible but before dementia was even in the picture had always said she’d rather die than go into a care home, she’d always been pro assisted dying and I’m wondering if I’m her own subconscious she’s just given up.
She moved there from hospital after passing out at her home back in June.
She seemed to settle well into her home for the first couple of months while I was having my daughter. Being a busy first time mum I didn’t get the chance to visit her at her New Home as often as I used to when I cared for her at her own flat, maybe once or twice a week.
Since Xmas every time I tried to visit with her baby granddaughter she’s been asleep, very deeply, and they told me she’d been refusing to get up, socialise etc
She’s had a couple of run ins with other residents, one threw a cold cup of tea at her so she lunged at him and the more recent one was a woman wandered into her room and she threw her out
I think that one really shook her and since then they’ve made an effort to keep the lady from wandering down mum’s corridor.
I’m finding it super stressful knowing mum is lashing out for obvious reasons. She had a horrible childhood and I’m scared with all the layers dementia has taken away all that is left is that scared angry child.
This morning the night nurse told me mum has been squarely refusing to leave her room for over three days. Won’t talk to them, won’t use her ensuite and has made messes on her room’s floor, has refused all food and medication.
I don’t really know what to do. I asked them what do they usually do in this situation and they mentioned getting her GP involved. I’m due to go in later to try and get her to eat and hopefully the GP will be around.
And his sounds horrible but before dementia was even in the picture had always said she’d rather die than go into a care home, she’d always been pro assisted dying and I’m wondering if I’m her own subconscious she’s just given up.