This is absolutely typical. My aunt, who had Alzheimer’s, would tell my mother every week that she hadn’t seen her daughter for months and didn’t know where she was or why she wasn’t visiting. This at a time when the daughter and her family spent most of every Sunday with her and took her out for lunch practically every time! In fact when they’d been out and had lunch and taken aunt back home, she would almost immediately ask whether they were going out for lunch today! So please don’t worry about this with your MiL. To coin a phrase I often used in my working life, don’t look for logic where there is none.I’m assuming this isn’t unusual, so I guess we just want reassurance.
Visited MIL in care home who was very down today. She gripped my hand, told me she was so lonely and thanked us profusely and gushingly for visiting her - We’ve visited every day without fail in the last 10 days since she’s in there! She said that not one of her friends has been to see her and how she wished she was going home (Aagh, not again!) I pointed out how lovely and friendly the care staff were, but apparently, “they talk to everyone else but don’t talk to me.” She was very grumbly that “other people get to have hip replacements but why are the NHS ignoring me?!” Despite her being told numerous times that she was far too frail by the doctors when she was last in hospital.
By coincidence, when we were leaving, one of her neighbours, who has been wonderfully supportive, arrived. She told us she had visited alone twice during the week and had brought another friend with her on another day, despite MIL saying no friends had visited at all. According to this lady, MIL had told her that we had never been in to see her at all and had abandoned her!
Is this a typical dementia type reasoning or are we being slightly manipulated?