Your hugs and thoughts are appreciated - thank you so much. Probably my last post for a little while as not much is changing at the moment. However, usual phone call received from MIL this morning wanting to know when we were taking her shopping as “my cupboards are completely empty” We know they’re not, but that’s another story. My husband told her that’s what she was paying the care agency for and that they now looked after everything as it had been her continuing and consistent wish to return home. MIL then went ape at him accusing him of abandoning her (after all the flack and opposition we took from the authorities to try get the right place for her!) We spoke to her carer who confirmed that shopping had been organised anyway. MIL then shouted, “Well then , I hope I die - and quickly!” I’m coming to the conclusion she wouldn’t have been happy anywhere we put her.