I haven't really done anything in mum's bedroom to be honest; maybe a little tidying or throwing away a few things that won't be missed, but one area I haven't touched at all is mum's vast collection of clothes.
Mum had some lovely clothes that I will definitely be taking to the charity shop, but for some reason I'm finding it difficult to conjure up the enthusiasm to sort them out.
How long did everyone else leave it before sorting out their parent's clothes? ?
Mum was admitted to a care home after a hospital stay.
She passed away last summer, and I was very stressed due to the trauma of supporting her through the end of life process.
So when the care home asked what I wanted to do with her things, I asked them if they could donate her clothes and toiltries to a local charity, which they were happy to do.
Backstory-Once we knew for certain she would not be returning to her home (where she had been living alone in terrible conditions due to refusing help) I began, with the assistance of a friend who had a car) to take her clothes to the care home.
Mum did have quite a few nice clothes but mostly she wore the same clothes day after day. I had started to buy clothes for her, but she only wanted to wear certain familiar ones. She had also had staining on some clothes which she had cut out with scissors. And she liked to paint and there was paint on a lot of them.
Once I had managed to get all her wearable clothes to the care home it seemed that there was a constant shortage of suitable items so I started getting clothes sent direct to her care home from a well known online retailer. She had no idea where the clothes were coming from.
Her house is still going through the probate process and I think I may have to go back and see her outdoor shoes, her rollator, her winter coats and what not. and a few other items of clothing left in her wardrobe that were not suitable for care home life.
They may go to charity if they are in good condition. Db has offered to do a house clearance.
This norning I looked at my address book of another well known online retailer and her address was still there, with a purchase history of things I bought her. The grief is still very raw.
You have to process it in your own time.