Hi
After seeing several concerning changes in my mother-in-laws behaviour and memory, late last summer we somehow managed to get her to speak to her GP where after assessment she was eventually diagnosed with MCI in September.
This is something she has never came to terms with or will admit to. She lives alone, My wife sees her every Sat and sometimes I am there. When we can we/my wife will make an occassional midweek visit. No other family members visit or are really interested. Other than her 82-year-old neighbour that she would go a 30 minute walk with a few times a week when weather permits, she really has no one else.
She is 68, was never what you would call a social butterfly but now barely leaves the house. She will no longer drive, doesn‘t want to go to shops or eat out etc. We help her with bills and things around the house etc.
She has lost all confidence, forgets important things and obsesses over non-important things. Tells us things have happened that clearly haven’t - it’s like she’s dreamt it but is convinced it’s happened. Says companies have phoned her about things that aren’t relevant and it transpires a junk email is the trigger.
Over the last few weeks she says she needs to get car insurance. We show her proof she has it and that fine - the next again week she says the same, and the next again week! That stopped but was replaced with wanting to cancel her broadband and home phone with Virgin. Her reason was cost but said she’d been trying to call for 4 wks but couldn’t get through. I phoned and after she gave permission for me to speak I got her costs down to what she was happy with and all good. Two weeks later (yesterday) she said she phoned Virgin and cancelled as it’s too expensive. Has no recollection of what occurred 2 wks prior. There are several other examples and we humour the incidentals but there’s now too many important and financial things she’s messing with but as I’ve said her denial and anger amongst other things means she will not entertain Power of Attorney or other such help.
My wife and I are so frustrated and really can’t see any light and we know it will only get worse.
Sorry for wittering on but any help or shared experiences would be most welcome.
After seeing several concerning changes in my mother-in-laws behaviour and memory, late last summer we somehow managed to get her to speak to her GP where after assessment she was eventually diagnosed with MCI in September.
This is something she has never came to terms with or will admit to. She lives alone, My wife sees her every Sat and sometimes I am there. When we can we/my wife will make an occassional midweek visit. No other family members visit or are really interested. Other than her 82-year-old neighbour that she would go a 30 minute walk with a few times a week when weather permits, she really has no one else.
She is 68, was never what you would call a social butterfly but now barely leaves the house. She will no longer drive, doesn‘t want to go to shops or eat out etc. We help her with bills and things around the house etc.
She has lost all confidence, forgets important things and obsesses over non-important things. Tells us things have happened that clearly haven’t - it’s like she’s dreamt it but is convinced it’s happened. Says companies have phoned her about things that aren’t relevant and it transpires a junk email is the trigger.
Over the last few weeks she says she needs to get car insurance. We show her proof she has it and that fine - the next again week she says the same, and the next again week! That stopped but was replaced with wanting to cancel her broadband and home phone with Virgin. Her reason was cost but said she’d been trying to call for 4 wks but couldn’t get through. I phoned and after she gave permission for me to speak I got her costs down to what she was happy with and all good. Two weeks later (yesterday) she said she phoned Virgin and cancelled as it’s too expensive. Has no recollection of what occurred 2 wks prior. There are several other examples and we humour the incidentals but there’s now too many important and financial things she’s messing with but as I’ve said her denial and anger amongst other things means she will not entertain Power of Attorney or other such help.
My wife and I are so frustrated and really can’t see any light and we know it will only get worse.
Sorry for wittering on but any help or shared experiences would be most welcome.