Hello, I have just joined this evening and am looking to offload!! My 79 year old father was diagnosed with Alzheimers last week. It didn't come as a complete surprise to my sister and I as we'd seen so many changes in him over the past months. However he doesn't seem to be accepting or understanding the diagnosis (or both). He is still searching for what is wrong with him, tying the GP up in knots with all manner of complaints as he is certain they will find something, give him some tablets and he will be 100% better and back to his usual self again. We tell him that they have found something - dementia and that he has tablets to slow it down. Do we tell him that he will never be 100% again? Would he understand? Or do we just go along with his constant theories of what could be up? He's refusing to give up driving - but we know he has to inform the DVLA and his insurer of his diagnosis. He initially said a flat NO to us applying for power of attorney - but I think he has come around on that after a trusted friend who is a financial advisor set him straight. He won't accept any help from my sister and I, let alone any external sources. He lives alone and I know we will struggle to ever move him on from his house when the time comes. It's heartbreaking. Since the diagnosis I at least have a new found patience with him, where as before I just though he was being a grumpy, stubborn old man.
Sorry - a lot of rambling. It just feels very overwhelming at the moment (worse for him I'm sure).
Thanks for listening xxx