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    What do you miss the most

    What do you miss the most from pre- dementia days?

    I miss the discussions we used to have which sometimes carried on til the early hours Politics/sport/literature/music/ourselves-we could talk for England

    Scrabble-very competitive

    Meals out-mmm lovely

    Days out

    Holidays-we used to be frequent travelers

    Music and concerts

    Our easy, close relationship-I'm beginning to forget what it was once like

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    Lyn T

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    Being driven by a competent driver who always knew the way!
    What will survive of us is love. ( Philip Larkin.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rageddy Anne View Post
    Being driven by a competent driver who always knew the way!
    Ha! Pete was always a terrible driver-before I knew him he drove into a lampost whilst trying to eat a kebab-No lie

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    I miss having a sensible conversation, Allen always says "I was only joking" if anyone dare contradict him, he turns everything into a joke and thinks everyone should find it funny as well, even when it isn't he gets annoyed when people don't laugh,
    You Never Know How Strong You Are Until Being Strong Is the Only Choice You Have,

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    All those things. Walking in the park, holding hands, someone to share my thoughts and unload when I come home from work. Reading together in bed. Hugs and cuddles. Date nights.

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    Having a life other than MIL!

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    Having someone to hold me and tell me everything will be ok.

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    Having my Mum, warts and all.

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    Waking up with someone warm next to me on a cold morning and like Tinkerbelle having someone assure me everything will be fine.

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    Ability to make me laugh and the shared jokes, meaningless to anyone else.It still shows just occasionally. Other things I don't want to remember, the loss is ever present.

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    I too miss the conversation and the shared 'in jokes'. I know I'm lucky to have what we still have but I do miss these.

    Oh yes - having someone to care for and look after me.
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    There is too much loss to mention.

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    I miss my Dad's daft sense of humour..which we shared...and his cringe-worthy corny jokes. His whistling a favourite tune; his sense of fun. All gone, except occasionally, when I prompt him with the first line of one of the daft limericks he used to recite, he will say the rest of it. "The boy stood on the burning deck...." for example.

    To be honest, I just miss my Dad, who was always there for me and could sort anything out. Now the roles are reversed and I miss the man he was.

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    I miss the sense of having the Rock of Gibraltar behind me, protecting me. I miss her love.
    Joanne
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    My grand-daughter and I have just been watching one of my ancient holiday videos, from 1990. She, of course, is laughing like a drain. John and I went on a European coach tour, 6 countries in 8 days, and he carried the camera, which, like our mobile phone, weighed a ton.

    At times I was permitted to use it, and to see my darling John, strong, smiling, talking about the places we were at, is both magical, poignant and heart breaking. Like others have said, I miss the easy conversation, I miss someone to do up my necklace, or zip up a dress, being told, every day "you look lovely", the easy silences, the endless chat, the interest in discussing something as mundane, but magical, as to which bedding plants would go where.

    I was never called by my name, always "love", "darling" or others affectionate words. And now it's a good day if he knows who I am.
    Scarlett123 xxx

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