I looked after my father for over six months without any daycare provision and thus no breaks, no time off whatsoever - thank you Social Services! - which was, as you can imagine, exhausting. We now have daycare for him for two days a week but I think we would all benefit from some time away somewhere, hopefully this summer. I would think, at the stage he is now, it would probably be the last time this would be workable.
My plan was that we would go somewhere like Eastbourne, or the I-O-W and my father would go into a nursing home but just to sleep, with my mother and I staying in a hotel nearby but collecting him every morning, us all spending the day together as a family, and then taking him back in the evening so that someone else is dealing with his waking during the night and the bed-wetting and the laundry and I could get some much needed sleep and a break, but from the day-to-day routine, not from him.
I don't know what we are 'entitled' to as carers so I don't know what allowance, if there is such a thing, we can ask for. The Care Manager seems to have "no" as her default setting so I need to know what is considered a normal amount of respite per year for a carer before I ask her anything as she will just say no if she thinks she can get away with it.
Does anyone have any idea what is the norm, or what the 'allowance' is?
Thank you in advance.