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    Poor Mum

    My Darling Mum is on end of life has had most medication withdrawn, she is left with respiridone and paracetamol. She still eats and drinks a little, is now bedridden. Today's visit and throughout the weekend has been horrendous, she is hallucinating, shouting constantly names and numbers mixed in with crying, I cannot distract her with anything, she looks at me sometimes says yes then within seconds she's back to shouting, kicking her legs in the air and against the wall, she was calling for her Mum today. When I got home I phoned the GP, I asked about giving her something to ease her distress, they have agreed to give her trazadone to try and will review on Thursday, I even mentioned it would be kinder to sedate her, I know that is frowned on, but where is Mums dignity in all this? I want peace for her, this could go on for months. I hate dementia, please take Mum and let her have peace!

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    Hi Ange,

    Sorry to hear what you are having to witness. It the helplessness when your PWD is suffering. I hoep someone more experienced than I can come and give guidance.

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    Oh, I'm so sorry, for what both you and your mum are going through. I hope the doctor can help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by angecmc View Post
    My Darling Mum is on end of life has had most medication withdrawn, she is left with respiridone and paracetamol. She still eats and drinks a little, is now bedridden. Today's visit and throughout the weekend has been horrendous, she is hallucinating, shouting constantly names and numbers mixed in with crying, I cannot distract her with anything, she looks at me sometimes says yes then within seconds she's back to shouting, kicking her legs in the air and against the wall, she was calling for her Mum today. When I got home I phoned the GP, I asked about giving her something to ease her distress, they have agreed to give her trazadone to try and will review on Thursday, I even mentioned it would be kinder to sedate her, I know that is frowned on, but where is Mums dignity in all this? I want peace for her, this could go on for months. I hate dementia, please take Mum and let her have peace!

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    Ange, this is so traumatic for you and your Mum. I hope the trazadonen will help her.
    Yes love, it is a devastating disease.

    Sending you virtual hugs and lots of support,

    Aisling xx

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    I have no advice to give has Im experiencing this for the first time but wanted to say I understand how you feel and how dreadful the illness is.

    Hugs and take care of yourself xx

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    Hello Ange

    I agree about sedation at this stage . What is there to be gained by allowing someone to spend their last weeks/months in a continual state of upset.

    I think doctors are so scared of being accused of over subscribing they give less medication than they may have given in the past.

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    Thank you all for your support, nothing has changed with Mum so far, I am hoping to see GP tomorrow, can see myself pleading with them, Mum is so distressed, it hurts to see her like this. Today I sat on the bed beside her stroking her hair and face, nothing is calming her. She was shouting out numbers and calling for her Mum again and kicking her legs in the air and against the wall.Eventually I sang to her, I haven't got a good voice Mum eventually went to sleep. This really isn't right. Oh well let's see what tomorrow brings. I can't bear to stay all the time with Mum, this makes me feel guilty, if they would just sedate her, I could then sit longer with her, it's just torture. Thinking of everyone of us going through this last stage and those who have trod in our shoes before us xx

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