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    Hi everyone. just moved mum into sheltered housing

    She, Jude, my little gardian angles! Your right, and i thank you for it. You know it was a year and a half since i had my hair cut? 7 months since i had an evening off to see friends, and a year since i went to the cinima. I guess once you see it worte down you realise......... I'm...
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    Hi everyone. just moved mum into sheltered housing

    Your both right, It does help to know i am not alone. What you said jude is exactly how i feal. I couldnt care for her there, with my kids in tow (they are all under 6) it was just impossible to take them with me or stay there for any length of time. at least in the new place i can take them...
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    Hi everyone. just moved mum into sheltered housing

    How awful Jude x I know just what you mean. Since dad died 5 years ago (march 6th so its a funny time for me) mums 3 bedroomed house has accumulated so much that you cannot move in most rooms, some not even get into without climbing. It was rented, so i guess thats why all this is free for...
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    Hi everyone. just moved mum into sheltered housing

    Todays been good so far, mums a lot more settled for now, and i am back on duty tonight fealing much better from the break. social services have offered an extra carer for 2 hours a couple of times a week to give me a break, along with 3 30 mins care sessions for someone to prepair her food and...
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    Hi everyone. just moved mum into sheltered housing

    thanks for the advice She, Bruce x Just read your comments, thanks so much. Your right She, she is at a difficult stage not quite needing residential care, and desperatly wanting to manage and prove to everyone she can manage. I knew this may not work out, but at least wanted to try it. I have...
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    Hi everyone. just moved mum into sheltered housing

    Hi! I havent posted for a while cause things have been so hectic but things are going both great and awful all at the same time. The good news was that mum finally agreed to move, and we moved he into a warden controlled complex last night. the bad news is that she was histerical today...
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    Mum moving to sheltered accomodation, advice apreciated!

    Thankyou John, Thats put me a bit more at ease. I called the social worker, the CP, age concern advice line ect and none gave me any joy. I just needed to know what if. I have lost too many loved ones, to lose another when there is no need. Poor mum spent ages in a mental hospital as a...
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    MAGIC HAS HER SAY ON UNPLEASANT POSTINGS

    Dear Magic, Being a new member I am just getting to know you all, and have to be honest and say that the difference you all have made to me have got me though the hardest point in my life. I dont understand whats happened here, or what has been said, but all i can say is that i join with...
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    Mum moving to sheltered accomodation, advice apreciated!

    I looked up the factsheet regarding POA..........this is the bit that makes me wonder is this is goning to help this particular situation: 'However, an attorney has no power over you. The attorney(s) cannot direct where you live or what medical treatment or care you receive' Ok I have to...
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    Mum moving to sheltered accomodation, advice apreciated!

    Hi all, I have decided that mum needs to be in safer accomodation (shes alone in a 3 bedroomed house that is litterally a hideous mess, a place I wouldnt feal happy about managing in myself let alone for my mother to manage in!) Luckily the housing officer has accepted this is urgant and...
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    Help and advice quick PLEASE!

    Here here!!!!!!!!!! All I can say Is its all been said. Dont you let them trample on you or the ones you love. Stand up and be counted, and dont worry about how you do it and say it. They certainly dont seem to be worried about how they are treating you. They are taking you for granted, your...
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    Help and advice quick PLEASE!

    Sorry to hear your fealing so low. Its devistating to hear that people have been so unsupportive. I had all this with mum when she was in hospital, and its disgusting that medical staff in hospitals just dont have a clue about how to deal with these patients. Patience and enlightenment is...
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    Help and advice quick PLEASE!

    dont let them do this! Hi there, I'm in the middle of rushing around so I'll make this quick. My mum was in hospital recently too, and the AD ment she couldnt understand why she had to keep the IV in and just pulled it out cause it was hurting. I said there was no way I would accept early...
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    advice needed!

    Hi all, I'm in the midst of trying to work out what to do in regard to mums care. Shes getting to the point where she cannot cope on her own in her house any longer and I dont know what to do for the best. What I really want is to have her live with me. The only trouble is my house is...
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    Not such a merry christmas!

    Hi Jo, My mum had her initial assesment by a consultant at home. So yes, diagnosis can be done at home if she wont go out. The G.P will have to know so he can note that on his refurral. I hope things work out for you, its hard to know what to do for the best at first isnt it? I'm sure you...
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    Back to square one

    Norman, My mothers AD hasnt really followed the text book. And come to think of it none of the other stories i have read here seam to either! I definetly agree that the christmas thing may well have made her worse. Its a time where everyone want to feal useful, wants to be organsised. A time...
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    I am being branded and incapable carer!

    Thanks everyone, It all seams a little silly in the light of the morning, I guess I just got worked up over what people think about me, and with all the usual worries about mum it seamed a big deal. I'm not going to get worked up over it, I have a clear consience. I have sat and thought about...
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    I am being branded and incapable carer!

    Hi all, Having a bad day and need to let off steam. Mum is giving the milk i buy her to the cats that visit her back door and hinding the bottles so no-one will tell her off for using it for them. Thus the carers who come in of a morning are having to bring her more milk and think i am not...
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    Grief

    Hi Emma, I dont know if it helps, but I have experience of losing a loved one and fealing guilt over the way i didnt do enough to help. My mother has alzimers, I am an only child and have 4 children. 2 years ago i took it upon myself to take in my god father who had suffered manic...
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    sad day

    I'm so sorry, my thoughts go out to you. I am new here so i knew little of your story, and i wish i could offer more support. I'l be praying for you over christmas, its an awful time to lose a loved one. Take care x