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    HELP! Severe vascular dementia - what now?

    Sudden decline As I understand ( and have witnessed) from my MIL's vascular dementia it is usually a gradual step decline caused by mini strokes and irreversible brain damage over a period of time. In your case it sounds as if she has had a dramatic decline and suddenly been diagnosed with...
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    Nursing home top up demand

    Update on update! Take advice before agreeing to top ups!! All was quiet on the top up demand from the Care Home financial side until 3 days before our private respite arrangement ended and the Council payment kicked in. We were very stressed to receive an email stating that unless my FIL paid...
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    Nursing home top up demand

    Update on top up demand In the end my husband copied his siblings and the home manager into an email to the council asking how top up requests should be paid. He immediately received a reply from the social services department saying that NO extra money should be paid directly to the home and...
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    Nursing home top up demand

    Thanks Sorry my comments did sound contradictory! I should explain that I work with people from different London Boroughs and it was interesting hearing their experiences with relatives and friends in various nursing homes. The Council we deal with seems to be anti top up but we are a bit wary...
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    Nursing home top up demand

    Thanks I agree it sounds dodgy but after asking people at work this seems commonplace with councils turning a blind eye. At the moment we have a short term agreement with them so have avoided issue and have no intention of just paying up. This practise was also deployed to a lesser extent in...
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    Nursing home top up demand

    Hello all, my first post as a relative of a vascular dementia sufferer. We have just moved her from a nursing home with no mental stimulation to another local one which suits her needs better. Our council have agreed to fund it as her spouse lives in their house and her savings are low now...