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    Lasting Power of Attorney for Health and Welfare

    Dear ChickenLady You have given me such good advice. I can't thank you enough when I meet with the Trust on Friday I will put into practice your pointers, it is such valuable advice you have given me.
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    Lasting Power of Attorney for Health and Welfare

    Thank you for replying. I understand all what you say but I was informed that LPA would mean that I would be involved in the treatment and care of my mother whereas I was disregarded. It is not the do not resuscitate problem in particular. It is although I was around at the hospital the day...
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    Lasting Power of Attorney for Health and Welfare

    Hello all. I have posted here in the past when I was looking after my mother who had Parkinson's and Lewy Body Dementia. Sadly, she died in June 2017. Since then I have been trying, more or less unsuccessfully, to get a meeting with the hospital to discuss the events leading up to my...
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    I can't believe it but my mum has gone

    Hello everyone - well it is now over a week. Today, I started cleaning out my mum's bedroom but very slowly. Funeral end of the month - I go back to work on Monday but will be having some more time off for the funeral and the week afterwards. It is stupid but I am now a big orphan of over...
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    I can't believe it but my mum has gone

    Thank you all so much for your meaningful comments. It is day 5 now and nothing is getting any better. I feel awful thinking of all the times I had moaned about my life, working full time and caring for her. I just wish I had spent more time with her - she lived with me. I used to cry...
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    I can't believe it but my mum has gone

    Thank you so much for all your support it is comforting to know that you are out there. It is day 2 of my life without my old mum and I am crying a lot. I managed to pull myself together and get to the hospital to pick up the paperwork for the death certificate which I will get tomorrow. My...
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    I can't believe it but my mum has gone

    My mother died today she was 88 and suffered from Parkinson's and Lewy Body Dementia. Her death was strange. She was admitted to hospital with a suspected infection on Tuesday morning. Chest x ray fine so they assumed water infection - she was on a drip etc as he was dehydrated. She was not...
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    Hoists etc

    Hello this is my second post this evening. My mother who has Parkinson's disease and Lewy Body Dementia has been bed bound since an unnecessary stay in Hospital in 2016. She has now been bed bound since March 2016. All my efforts to get her walking - private physio etc have not helped...
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    butans patches

    Hello - I am posting two posts because they are both different. Here is the first one. I do value all your help you have given me. My mother who has Parkinson's disease and Lewy Body Dementia, has a painful hand she clutches it close to her stomach and it is clasped with the thumb resting on...
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    social services are trying to put my mother in a care home

    thank you all for your help. I don't have the capacity or want live in care. I am phoning around like mad but would like to thank you all for the help you have given. I will end this thread now.
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    social services are trying to put my mother in a care home

    Thanks to all extremely helpful - my mum's care is all double handed so I would be paying double. Have got someone coming round this afternoon at least so am hopeful have phoned a few now but it is time consuming and some don't have capacity - care agencies are thin on the ground. At this...
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    social services are trying to put my mother in a care home

    Sorry forgot to answer correctly call times would be: one hour breakfast 1 hour breakfast 45 mins lunch 30 mins tea 30 mins bed time I can adjust these accordingly - these were the social services timings - but I also use private care as stated for several other times during the day -...
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    social services are trying to put my mother in a care home

    Thanks for all - it would be 4 calls a day. I am just about to get phoning. I wouldn't use the care agency my mother is with at the moment because they reputedly cost £51K per year! I have used them privately a couple of times and there prices do seem above the norm and they are no better...
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    social services are trying to put my mother in a care home

    Hello. Yes that is right. At the end of the week I will not have any care for my mum. I use a private care agency and a private carer, but neither of them can cover the four double handed calls seven days a week. I am looking to find another agency or agencies that can do this but am getting...
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    social services are trying to put my mother in a care home

    Thank you. My mother has lived with me for nearly 7 years. She is bedbound so doesn't walk. She has a carelink pendant that she can use in an emergency. I have a keysafe which various people know including the carelink operators and various other people which need to enter my house.
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    social services are trying to put my mother in a care home

    Hello. Sorry to offend anyone, I am not suggesting of course, that care homes are not appropriate places for people. Several of my friends have their elderly relatives in care homes and they seem fine. I am saying that for me personally and for my mother it is not the way forward. I wrote my...
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    social services are trying to put my mother in a care home

    Thank you all once again for all your help. However, I think some of you may be missing the point. My mother doesn't want to go into a care home and I don't want her to go into one either. Am I the only person who wants my elderly relative with me? She used to cause me problems I admit but...
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    social services are trying to put my mother in a care home

    Thank you all for your help. I have the day off work on Monday and will phone round some care agencies then and see what I can come up with. I am trying to get in touch with social services but they appear to have gone to ground now. Just for the record, it is my house, not my mother's she...
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    social services are trying to put my mother in a care home

    I have contacted you before when I needed to and you have been there for me. I always thought that I would be happy for my elderly mother who has Parkinson's and Lewy Body Dementia to go into a care home. Well I find myself not wanting that now and it is not because I am filled with guilt...
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    My old mum bedbound

    my old bedbound mum Thank you so much your reply was lovely - I will take on board what you have said and I am going to print your reply out and digest it over a cup of tea in a moment it is really helpful thank you once again for your support and help.