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  1. NorthBankDave

    Wanting To Go Home...

    I don't post on here very often. I know that my problems are nothing compared to other peoples & I apologize in advance, but today has been a stressful one and I need to have a vent and ask for a bit of advice! Mum no longer seems to know who I am. Today she was extremely adamant that I was NOT...
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    How do i explain where my Dad is when Mum asks, he died 8 years ago.

    I would absolutely agree with telling 'love lies' to protect their feelings. Mum regularly asks where her husband is (he died 36 years ago), her Mother In Law (who died 24 years ago) and thinks her younger sister is calling round, or gets disappointed because she hasn't (she died three years...
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    Great Expectations?

    I was online late last night when I stumbled across this article, published last week on the Department of Health & Social Security's web site entitled 'After a diagnosis of dementia: what to expect from health and care services'...
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    Rivastigmine dose

    Hi Penfold62, that sounds about right to me. There is a link here which may be of some help: https://www.drugs.com/dosage/rivastigmine.html My Mum was diagnosed with mixed dementia in 2016 and because she other medical conditions she has to take Rivastigmine in Transdermal patch form. They...
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    effects on your own life?

    Funnily enough a neighbour said 'You're coping so well' to me yesterday! For the last couple of days my Mum has constantly asking where my Dad is (he died in 1982). She thinks the car on the drive is his. Yesterday she was asking where he had gone, when will he be back, will he be back tonight...
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    effects on your own life?

    It's had a huge effect on my life. What I long for is freedom and travel.I dream (quite literally!) of being in my beloved Wales and walking among the hills and sitting by the ocean. Bliss! I used to go to concerts a lot and that has ground to a shuddering halt. In the last 15 months I've been...
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    Vascular Dementia query

    Hi Maryjoan, my experience is a similar one to yours. Mum was diagnosed with mixed dementia (vascular dementia & Alzheimers) in October 2016. She had three follow up appointments in December 2016, January & March 2017 to monitor the condition & see if there was any adverse reaction to the...
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    Looking back and maybe helping others look forward

    Thank you happycat for such a moving, wise and beautiful post.
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    Your tips: how to help someone with dementia enjoy Christmas

    I used to love Christmas but now it's a time of year I dread really. It seems to set up expectations that can't be fulfilled. Last year Mum stayed up late on Christmas Eve waiting for her husband to come home (he died in 1982) & I spent the early hours of Christmas morning trying to convince...
  10. NorthBankDave

    Personal Assistants

    After five months (!) of bashing away Mum has finally been awarded Attendance Allowance and we've managed to get a care/needs assessment from the Local Authority. Mum is not entitled to council help so the social worker has suggested that she could employ a personal assistant which might provide...
  11. NorthBankDave

    Phone Calls

    Thank you for all your advice. Thank you Canary for your description of 'confabulation' - that filling in of the gaps with dreams and other memories is absolutely what Mum is doing. It helps to know that it's a common feature of dementia and to be able to give it a name. I'll...
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    Phone Calls

    Hello, I've got a question about phone calls & I'm just wondering if anyone else on here has encountered something similar. . Yesterday my Mum says that she received a telephone call in the morning during which someone was shouting at her for ‘watching too much television…over 30 hours’...
  13. NorthBankDave

    Power of Attorney Advice

    Thank you so much for all your help & advice everyone: it has been absolutely invaluable & you are all stars :) I have completed all the forms, asked someone who has known Mum for 40 years to be the certificate provider and I have asked her niece, who she has always been close to, if she...
  14. NorthBankDave

    Power of Attorney Advice

    Hi Everyone, Could anyone offer me some advice on Power of Attorney please as I feel like I'm going round in circles! My Mum was diagnosed with 'mixed dementia' in October 2016. When I discovered that there were was a Financial POA (who knew?!) I thought that it might be helpful for Mum...
  15. NorthBankDave

    Sleep for the carer

    Hi, it's my first post on this forum! I care for my Mum who has Alzheimer's/Vascular Dementia. She gets really conscious about security these days, locking the door several times a night, taking the keys to bed with her etc. She often calls me several times a night, asking if I have locked the...