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    anyone out there

    Wheelchair bound now Hi, Mum seems unable to get in and out of the car now and gets mixed up when I try and get her to sit down in a normal seat at a table. She seems more settled in a wheelchair now but I am struggling with transportation. Its hard to get anywhere with her in a wheelchair...
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    The Dreaded Question

    Thanks for all responses. My head is buzzing, but it is reassuring to hear other peoples experiences and points of view. xx
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    The Dreaded Question

    My mum's health has been very up and down and I have been asked to think about whether Mum should be resuscitated should she become worse and whether we would like further intervention to be given in order to keep her alive should she have to be hospitalised. My friend's mum is in the same care...
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    Gadgets and Gizmos

    Hi, My mum has middle stage alzheimers and we are struggling such a lot with everything from personal care to eating and drinking, getting up from chair and bed etc and being mobile enough to attend medical appointments . I am now wondering whether anyone has help from their Care Homes...
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    Mum forgets her surroundings

    Hi I just wanted to say that I regularly experience this problem with my mum. She has been in a care home now for several years and still has times when she does not recognise her room, her belongings and the other residents or staff or even family members at times who she sees on a daily...
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    Shall I say No ???? Or carry on ??

    :confused: I just do not know what to do. Mum looks forward to our regular trips out of the care home. I give up my days off work to regularly take mum on outings just to get her out of the care home. We go to hairdressers, coffee shops, the museum or library,... anywhere just to give mum...
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    Jeckyll & Hyde with infections .. Why ?????????????

    What keeps happening to my gentle mum?? Mum used to such a quiet person... a real lady, but, she keeps on getting infections, chest and urine and its like she becomes a different person and is so unmanageable, abusive and aggressive. Does anyone know why people with dementia get so many...
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    Got the blues today

    I feel so down today. Mum was in an awkward mood again when I visited her today in her care home. She has virtually no memory now and today she was asking about members of our family who have passed away. It was heartbreaking for both of us and she feels abandoned and imprisoned and wants to...
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    Conversation (or lack thereof)

    Strangley enough, I have just noticed that my mum is losing the ability to have a conversation. I visit her in the care home regularly and I end up having to babble on and on and on, and run out of things to say so end up talking about years ago and old times which get a reasonable response...
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    What happens when the money runs out for a self funder in a carehome ??

    Just wondering if anyone can tell me what happens to a self funding person who has had to sell their home to fund living in a care home. My mum is about to sell her home and I am just hoping that when the money runs out that she can remain in the same care home as it is familiar to her and that...
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    heartbreaking

    I just had to respond to your post because it mirrored an experience I had with my dad many years ago, but, sadly he eventually passed away. I wish you strength to get through all this uncertainty, and I am so glad that you have got the chance to take your dad home. Grab all the precious time...
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    Alzheimer's behaviour

    Hi, I would just like to add a few things that my mum does. Mum is quite unpredictable and moody and has regular mood changes. She spends a lot of time constantly emptying her handbag, drawers, and wardrobe and then she roots for lost things and hides things and wraps things up in socks...
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    Live in care - Mum is very resistant

    I thought about getting my mum a live in carer as she was so unsafe in her own home but mum would not hear of having anyone living with her and my sibling thought it was a crazy idea and thought a care home was much safer and more cost effective. I am more emotional, and wanted mum to keep...
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    hygiene issues

    Just wanted to join in on this .... as I have been there and got the t shirt on this one.!! My mum goes through phases when she will not shower or wash so I get her to cleanh her face and hands with wipes. She complained about having dry skin so I bought her lovely moisturising cream that...
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    Hello all

    Welcome to Talking Point. I don't know what I would do without Talking Point. I have had so much support and advice given to me since I joined and sometimes it is such a relief to just type a massive rant or off load worries, problems and fears, when you cannot talk to others about things...
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    evening meal getting harder ,,,any body else in same boat

    Funny eating habits Hi, Just wanted to join in on the subject of lost appetite. My mum is in her fourth year of being diagnosed with alzheimer's, and has recently lost her appetite. She never seems to get hungry any more and like the others mentioned would eat chocolate or biscuits at any...
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    Am I A Moaner. ... Or Do Others Complain Too ?????

    I feel like I have become 'The Care Home Police' always on duty checking up on things... and that the carers now dread my visits as I am always complaining about things, but, I really care about my mum and want her to be comfortable. Some things make my blood boil. I know the carers have a...
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    I think I have the reverse of the Midas Touch

    I think I have the reverse of the Midas Touch.. Everything I touch turns to cr*p lately. Its like the Skittles Ad but everything I touch or do, or say etc turns to rubbish, and turns out to be a disaster. I have just had enough stress to last me a lifetime and things keep piling up and up...
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    Feel Depressed - It All gets too much

    I am really fed up and completely cheesed off that I can never switch off and relax and and can't sleep, hence, I am typing this in the middle of the night. I am torn in two all the time trying to juggle family commitments, work and visiting mum in the care home. I am trying to take some ME...
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    How will mum cope without me ????

    I am soooooooooooooo fed up. I am really worried about my mum and I am wondering how she will cope without me, as I won't be able to visit mum so often as my husband's job is forcing us to move. I will be lucky to see mum once a week and I am really heartbroken. His job will mean a lot of to -...