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    At the end of my tether...

    Oh Bunpoots I know just what you mean. I went to M.I.L's house with the intention of clearing a room or at least half lol. Like you I managed a cupboard in her kitchen. Bin full of out of date packets and open jars. Felt exhausted just doing that to be honest. I'm dreading having to empty the...
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    wills and dementia

    Hi everyone I hope you are all still smiling through. Can anyone help me with a worry ? My mother in law is in a care home with dementia, my husband has POA for her. Does anybody know what would happen if my husband died before his mothers house was sold ? I'm guessing I would have no...
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    Can I ... Should I?

    As a few of above I would be barred from using TP if I actually said what I think about SW and so called care agency ! Had the same problem with alarm too ! Eventually wrapped it in bath towels and put it in a drawer, not much good in an emergency though is it ?
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    At the end of my tether...

    So pleased for you Bunpoots. Things seem to be moving in the right direction for you and dad. I hope when he goes to the care home that he settles in for your peace of mind. My M.I.L. was confused to start with but the staff say she's settled as though she's always lived there. Good to know...
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    What's the next step in care for my Mum ? Who can help me ?

    My mother in law was in hospital recently and was sent to a care home for respite without informing us, due to an ongoing feud with the SW . The hospitals here (west Mids) do tend to put a care package in place before discharge where vulnerable PWD are concerned. I personally wouldn't have...
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    Middle to later stages of dementia

    My husband is a clergyman and he is putting you on his prayer list for sick people and the dying and the loved ones left behind. I hope your mom goes peacefully in her sleep when it's her time. God bless you.
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    Middle to later stages of dementia

    Those of you who've read my posts know that my M.I.L. was put into a care home against our wishes by a bully SW. Yes the break is nice but in a strange twist of fate we actually miss her. I asked the care home what stage they thought she was at as they work with PWD all day and night and in...
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    At the end of my tether...

    Oh you poor soul having to go through the same rigmarole with SS again, I feel guilty about moaning when their are so many more people worse off than me. I'm off to my MRI scan now to check on my alien ! What my son called my brain tumour when I was diagnosed 23 yrs ago. I'm always surprised...
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    Helpcards for carers

    Fantastic idea, a card like this would have been useful when M.I.L. wandered off and was found a mile away. The police rang us as M.I.L. takes her battered old handbag everywhere , and I mean everywhere lol.and she has a piece of paper with my husbands phone number on it. A card saying she...
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    Helpcards for carers

    I think the help cards for carers are a good idea especially in our case when or should say if M.I.L. comes home ? As we aren't allowed to tell them what she needs ourselves. They put their hand up to our face and say ' we are talking to PWD not you ! Well excuuuuse me but we know M.I.L. a...
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    At the end of my tether...

    Oh the joy of cleaning up a parent who is incontinent but insists when I pick up her dirty pants ' it wasn't me '. Same as the poo on the bathroom floor is the dog ' she hasn't got a dog ' but if we don't laugh we cry don't we fellow sufferers.? I guess with the SW taking m.i.l. To respite...
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    'Caring for my husband who has dementia with Lewy bodies': a personal account by Meg Wilkes

    Thank you so much Hazara8 for pointing out that there is no comparison between mother son relationship and carers relationship for PWD My husband is his mothers carer and ONLY relative apart from me of course. He has been trying his absolute best to care for her but her needs are changing and...
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    At the end of my tether...

    Couldn't agree more you need to put your foot down on this occasion. Us carers would be prosecuted for leaving PWD alone in the middle of the night with an empty fridge but they are allowed to do it. We are in the west Mids and it happens on a regular basis. I run a weekly retirement club and it...
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    At the end of my tether...

    My husband has POA for his mother but it seems it's not worth the paper it's written on where SW is concerned. Had to inform DWP that carers allowance is to be stopped, and attendance allowance. What a performance ! All because of a bully SW that listens to nobody apart from other SW's that...
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    At the end of my tether...

    Me too I'm worried about my husbands state of mind. He is suicidal due to agonising pain in his remaining leg and to be treated like a criminal for no reason is breaking my heart I feel so helpless and of course it's the weekend so my hands are tied until Monday. Not that SS answers the phone ...
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    At the end of my tether...

    Oh Bunpoots I thought we had problems but you're suffering more than anyone should. Be strong and refuse to be responsible for your dads safety ! They have a duty of care after all.
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    At the end of my tether...

    As per my message they seem to do what they like and ****** anyone's feelings. Especially the PWD and family. And yes they can just dump him at home I'm afraid. I've seen it happen, sometimes at stupid O clock in the morning. Hope you manage to get things sorted to your satisfaction and dads...
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    At the end of my tether...

    Wrote a long message last night but it seems to have disappeared into the ether Not been able to visit M.I.L. for 2 days due to hubby being ill with stomach bug. Rang hospital weds and M.I.L. was fine. Hubby went yesterday to find a stranger in M.I.L's bed. ! Staff told him she had been...
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    At the end of my tether...

    O.M.G. didn't think things could get any worse but I was soooo wrong ! We couldn't visit mum in hospital for couple of days due to stomach bugs. Husband went this afternoon to find a strange woman in her bed. Told by staff that his mother went into respite on Wednesday 40 miles away ! They...