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    Should I get a dog!

    Hi Littlebear, I went through this dilemma last year when my 16 year old dog died. I've always had dogs and I was desperate to get another one, but my husband has early onset Alzheimer's and I knew it could be difficult. In the end, I decided to take the risk and we got a puppy. My husband...
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    Selling jointly owned property with PoA

    Thank you for your comments and suggestions. Yes, it seems like the best thing to do is to find a solicitor who has dealt with this kind of sale before.
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    Selling jointly owned property with PoA

    Apologies - I think this has appeared on other threads, but I couldn't find a definitive answer to my question and I wondered if anyone has been in this situation and can tell me how they dealt with it? I need to downsize as my husband is in hospital and will shortly be moving to a care home...
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    I don't want to be a carer any more

    @maryjoan I really feel for you. I remember we corresponded earlier this year as we were in a similar position. Things have moved on here and my husband is in hospital under section 3 of the mental health act and will be moving to a care home once he is stable. He's only just 62. It's difficult...
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    I used to look forward to Bank Holidays...

    @Martarita thank you for your reply and I'm so sorry that you miss your husband so much. Sometimes there's just nothing more we can do and we have to let the professionals take over. I hope that he is settled in his care home and that you able to enjoy spending time with him without the worry of...
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    I used to look forward to Bank Holidays...

    It's very difficult @maryjoan , but everything about this horrible disease is hard. I do appreciate that some people are very kind and understanding and several local people keep an "eye out" for my husband, but the holidays times are the worst. Lots of people, many who've been drinking and my...
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    I used to look forward to Bank Holidays...

    That must be so difficult @padmag if your husband was telling off other people's children! I also walk with my husband on wide paths where there aren't too many people. What I really hate is that people think I can control his behaviour. Obviously I can't.
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    I used to look forward to Bank Holidays...

    Thank you @Grannie G. I don't feel that I'm coping very well at the moment and I am extremely anxious about his behaviour. He is operating slightly outside "social norms" and this makes him very vulnerable when he's out and about. Social Services agreed to pay for 3 days a week day care...
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    I used to look forward to Bank Holidays...

    That's a good technique @Cat27 and thank you for sharing it. If I'm with him, I tell people in front of him as I know that if I speak quickly and quietly he can't understand what I'm saying. Most people are kind, even if they don't understand how dementia affects behaviour. But some people are...
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    I used to look forward to Bank Holidays...

    That was when I had a job and had a life. Now, I work very part time from home, my husband was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's 18 months ago and I dread holiday times. We live in a seaside town which is just heaving at the moment with the unexpectedly warm weather and for my husband, that...
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    Contingency Planning

    That's a great idea. Thank you for posting.
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    Contingency Planning

    At the moment I can't see my husband agreeing to go into respite care if I was ill (and certainly not simply to give me a break.) Part of the problem is that he doesn't accept / remember / understand his diagnosis, so why would he need to stay somewhere else for a few days? But things change as...
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    Contingency Planning

    You've raised an important issue and something which I've been thinking about myself lately. My husband is 18 months post diagnosis, although I believe the dementia was there for 2 or 3 years before. Social Services did a needs assessment for him last summer and a couple of months ago I...
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    Day Centre Costs

    Thank you - I'll have a look. The whole benefits thing is a bit of a mystery to me!
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    Day Centre Costs

    Thanks Beate, it's interesting that you were able to get the day care paid for. Yes he's had a care needs assessment and they concluded that he didn't need anything as his wife does everything for him! He doesn't accept / understand / remember the diagnosis, so any conversations with...
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    Day Centre Costs

    Am I being unrealistic in hoping for funding to pay for my husband to attend a day centre? He's 61 with early onset Alzheimer's and his behaviour (wandering the streets, talking to strangers etc) is making him vulnerable. He was recently pushed over by someone and although he's appears happy and...
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    Short relationship - then dementia, anyone else like this?

    @maryjoan Yes, you could well be me. Or I could be you. Fact is I don't know who I am any more. My friends say they don't recognise me now and that I always used to be happy and smiling. Bit of an exaggeration I suppose, but I know what they mean. The lack of meaningful conversation is a killer...
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    Short relationship - then dementia, anyone else like this?

    Community Psychiatric Nurses. My husband is apparently "under their care". Nice people and they do memory tests etc, but no practical help. I agree about the loneliness. Before I met my husband I lived alone for 15 years and was never lonely. This is very different - I can't talk to friends on...
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    Short relationship - then dementia, anyone else like this?

    I've often wondered the same - would I be able to endure more if I'd been with my husband 30+ years, if we had children, grandchildren, more shared memories? I don't know, but I do feel that I was free a relatively short period of time ago and I long for those days. I met OH 9 years ago. We had...
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    misinforming doctors

    I don't have the answer, but I can certainly sympathise. My husband had hypochondriac tendencies before dementia struck and now that's much worse. He regularly makes doctor's appointments because he feels funny, has a strange pain in his side, back ache, or has sneezed twice. Where possible, I...