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    BBC Panorama film exposes care home failures

    Following my mother's recent experience of an extremely poor nursing home, I've come to the following conclusions about how these places continue to exist/flourish: 1. I don't think the situation is helped by the lack of meaningful information available about care homes. Ironically, the...
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    BBC Panorama film exposes care home failures

    Recently fought hard to get my mum taken out of a care home in North Staffordshire with similar problems. She was sent there from hospital against my wishes, under threat that if I didn't accept this placement for her, she would be sent to a home 20 miles away. I raised safeguarding concerns...
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    Christmas holiday

    Very true. I feel that I've had so many decisions to make, most of which make me question my wisdom, motives and even at times, my sanity. It's a long, rough road, especially when there are few family members around to share the burden. Thanks to everyone today - I'm now daring to look...
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    Christmas holiday

    Thank you! Many thanks Marionq, Risa and Beate, It seems so obvious when I hear you say this, and this would be my advice if someone were to ask me the same thing. I guess I have become bogged down with so many conflicting emotions that I needed to hear the 'voice of reason' from someone...
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    Christmas holiday

    I have a dilemma about plans for Christmas Day. Mum went into a CH earlier this year, and seems to be settling well. She has mixed dementia, which is progressing quite quickly, and although she is still able to recognise family members, she is very disorientated and confused with regards to...
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    The roller coaster of the end

    That's a very good idea - I hadn't thought of that.
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    The roller coaster of the end

    I'm going through the same with my mum, 89 years old, not taking any food and somehow surviving on just a sip of 'Ensure' every now and then. Three times this year we've been 'prepared for the worst', first time during my daughter's A-level exams, second time on my 50th birthday, and again now...
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    Medicine and Memory

    Medicine, memory and water infections I've been through something similar over the past 2 years with my mother, living (semi) independently with the support of myself, carers and a manager of the housing complex where she lives. Our problem was that mum needed medication 4, sometimes 5 times...
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    Welcome to Talking Point - introduce yourself here

    Hello everyone Hello, I stumbled upon this forum yesterday after doing a Google search for 'silent aspiration'! I hadn't heard of TP until then, and I'm really glad I found it. I am an only 'child' (just turned 50) caring for my 89 year old mum who has Alzheimer's and Vascular Dementia...