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    right place?

    After well over a year of MiL's admission into an EMI Nursing Home, none of us have settled - least of all, her. She is up at night, agitated and distressed (on the whole) and by day, exhausted,, and there is mention of her moving on to a challenging behaviour unit. She seldom looks 'cared...
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    #FightForRespite

    It is tearing my wife apart that we were not able to keep Mil with us. Perhaps it was never going to happen, but with correct support and good quality, regular breaks, well who knows? If the reporter needs to talk to other people, we are willing to give our experience. Just PM me. You did...
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    #FightForRespite

    Thank you for posting this. We hit this problem 5 years ago when our LA reduced the money they paid to care homes. Although my MiL was self funding, the care home couldn't afford to keep a respite room which may not be occupied for 52 weeks of the year. The only places we found for...
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    formal reviews of care

    If any members would be willing to share with me how many updates they receive about their relatives care I would really appreciate it, both formal and informal.
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    how does one know

    I am sorry that you are also having to deal with this with your Dad. Only occasionally will a carer come to us to tell us this or that, mostly they are just very busy, and always in a caring and kind way to the residents. They also call us if Mil should fall - they say they have to inform us...
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    how does one know

    Thankyou for this ... I am absolutely amazed - a monthly review meeting?! We have been assertive, both in writing and verbally but still never enough answers to our questions. May I ask if others get frequent review meetings? The last one we were asked to attend was the NHS CHC meeting a...
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    how does one know

    ...if a Home is the right one? How does one know, after many months down the line, if the care is as it should be - given that we are dealing with extreme confusion and dementia, and someone who can't tell us how they are being cared for? Should someone in the Home have an 'overview' of what...
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    teeth

    My wife and I are increasingly down. Mum in law now in care for quite some months, almost a year actually. The care ( dementia nursing) is good, so far as we can see, but personal care sometimes seems lacking. In particular the non-brushing of teeth. Mil'S moods can be challenging, but she...
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    injured

    It was facial, and another resident was present but we were not told who.
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    injured

    Residents are allowed to go walkabout, quite rightly, so this happened walking around, out of the lounges.
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    injured

    Just a quick query, if anyone can help. MiL has not settled really in her Emi placement, very up and down in every way. We feel a little uneasy because she has recently been injured by another resident, out of view of staff. I know they can't watch all residents all the time, but are they...
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    breakdown

    Thanks BeckJan. MiL was discharged from the Clinic and any consultant a long time ago, even during all the problems we had at home (MiL lived with us). The service was not good, we were on our own, and we felt let down. She is now under the care of the Home's GP. She is on an antidepressant...
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    breakdown

    I know my wife posts on here, but we keep it separate so that each of us can say what we want if we need to. She is at breaking point. In brief MiL went into emi nursing care some time ago and whilst my wife had more or less come to terms with this, her Mum has not truly settled. The moods...
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    cancer support

    Just a quick question so that I can hopefully present some helpful ideas to my distraught wife. MiL is now in emi nursing care with the mental health side of things much the same, slightly worse in some respects, improved in others due to medications. To the mix we can now add a probable...
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    self funding/nhs CHC

    Just a general query really, if anyone can throw light on this? I am very much aware that when the LA funds a place in a nursing home they pay less than a self funder would. Does this also apply when the NHS funds a place under their NHS CHC rules? Really my question is does the nursing home...
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    chc

    Goodness Fiona, you were late to bed! Thankyou! I am hoping that our meeting shall be conducted professionally. The Home has said that they will just tell the truth, working from the care plan. We haven't yet been party to the care plan since they are still assessing MiL and, I assume...
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    chc

    Thank you for your reply. That would be my understanding also. Think we have a battle on our hands though. Does anyone know if the completed DST needs to be signed off at the actual meeting? And will they ask for our contribution in any way? I believe we should be given a copy (forgive me...
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    chc

    If someone's Behaviour domain was an A at the time the NHS checklist was performed, and if their Behaviour (and associated emotional needs etc) are now being managed with medication and other measures by the time the full DST is due to take place, how can anyone stand a chance of receiving NHS...
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    section 2 MHA

    Very useful replies, thank you. There is a more local unit I understand, but the CQC has closed it to new admissions I understand - just temporarily until improvements are made. And we are told it will be wherever there is a bed available. Could be anywhere. Much appreciated, thanks again.
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    section 2 MHA

    This sounds very positive Jaymore, thankyou for this. We think a thorough assessment is what has been lacking for so long, despite our pleas for help.We knew the extent of MiL's problems as she lived with us, but we weren't being listened to or believed since, as you say, a brief visit doesn't...