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    Care home can no longer meet dads needs - now what!

    Just had the call none of us ever want to receive, the Care Home where my Dad has been for nearly 3 years is no longer able to meet his needs. It has been brewing for a while, his continence is getting worse, he is refusing personal care and has become violent with staff when they attempt it...
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    Regular Paracetamol dose has really helped my Dad's mood...

    Hi, you can also get Soluble which might be easier. Have you tried to see if your Doctor will do a telephone consultation with you. If you explain you are a Carer for your wife it might help (I hope so) :)
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    Regular Paracetamol dose has really helped my Dad's mood...

    My Dad had been very down and agitated for months. He was refusing personal care and had even lashed out at Care Home staff. He broke his hip several years ago and previous to that had suffered with back pain. He wasn't on any pain relief, and no longer has the ability to communicate if he was...
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    Any experience of Anti-Depresants for later stage Alzheimers?

    It is not something that has not crossed our minds, but his Dr and CPN all state moving him would not be a good idea ( and he is now self funding and they agreed to keep him with no top up). It is a Care/Residential Home that accepts Dementia sufferers. However, you are right, they should be...
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    Any experience of Anti-Depresants for later stage Alzheimers?

    Hi all, my Dad has become very depressed and withdrawn over the last month or so. He is in a Care Home where he has been reasonably settled for the last 2 years. His last review by the Older Persons Mental Health Team showed a drop in his MMSE from 23 to 11. His refusals for help with...
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    Dad now LA Funded..I think Mum needs to change her Will - advise please?

    Hi there Having POA for both my Mum and Dad I am trying to keep on top of their affairs. Dad has Altz and is in a Care Home. His savings have now gone and the LA will be paying his fees from this month. It occured to me that as they have Joint Life First Death Wills, and share ownership of...
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    Is it time for care home?

    Hi Lexie, so sorry to hear where you are with your Dad. I had a similar dilemma 18 months ago when my Father broke his hip. At the time he was still in the family home with my Mother and she was already struggling to care for him as his Altzeimers was worstening. The break was the catalyst for...
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    Problems with Bathing and Clothes changing in Care Home

    Safeguarding.. I didn't do it lightly but as my husband works in Social Care and made me read the information the relevant County Council supplied about Safeguarding, there was no question that neglect, whether intentional or through poor organisation and staffing, is still neglect.
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    Problems with Bathing and Clothes changing in Care Home

    Things have reached a tipping point over the last few weeks with my Dad who has been in a CH for over a year. When he first went in we told them he lacked the understanding to change his clothes, and that following a broken hip he stuggled to wash himself. He always disliked them bathing him...
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    How should I treat parents Joint Bank account capital?

    Thanks for the info Hi Saffie, Thanks for the reply. I am determined to fight this and my experience is like yours so far, it depends who you get when you phone the LA up, they all seem to look at things differently? I am going to continue along the lines that it is up to Mum and Dad how...
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    How should I treat parents Joint Bank account capital?

    My father went into a Care home over a year ago. As my mother remained in the family home I was aware it would be disregarded. However, I immediately split their Savings 50/50 into 2 separate accounts. However, I was unsure what to do with the joint account that both their Pension incomes...
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    Improving lighting in Care Home room

    My Dad is having to move rooms in his CH as he is changing from self-funding to Local Authority funding. His new room will be much darker than his previous one, and I am looking at a Daylight type light bulbs for the main ceiling light. Some research has shown a blueish white light, 300 to 400...
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    Dad refusing to Change Clothes

    Hello all, My Dad has been in a Care Home since he broke his Hip last year and his moderate Altzeimers worstened. He is happy in the Home and generally we are happy with the care he receives. However, he is getting more stubborn about bathing and changing his clothes. He has had his current...
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    Problems with boredom in Care Home - affecting mood?

    good idea :) I had thought of that but he ould break that in a minute bless him!:)
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    Problems with boredom in Care Home - affecting mood?

    My 86 year old Dad has been in a CH for about 2 months now, following discharge from Hospital after breaking his hip. He has said he is happy there and does not want to "move again", or return home to my Mum. She was struggling to care for him before his fall, so it is probably a less stressful...
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    Probs getting Hospital to commit on Dad's future care needs after broken hip??

    Thanks Jaycee, he is now in a Care Home, has been there since Thursday, still confused but seems OK. I took Mum in to visit him yesterday and within 15 minutes she was pulling faces at his comments and snapping at him. It's heartbreaking but I can't see how he would be better off at home as she...
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    Social services frustrations

    So sorry to hear this, my Dad is in hospital and at the meeting regarding his future announced he would rather be dead than have care. As there was no reasoning with him the Community Psych Nurse (not a Social Worker) re-assessed him. Luckily we had spoken to her beforehand and had asked her to...
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    hoarding is this part of this illness??

    Torches and Batteries are my Dad's guilty pleasure...we could open a shop! He also has a thing for plastic bags and Mum realised he was taking things out of the bin and putting them in his shed some time ago. At any given opportunity we will throw a few things out but we have to be carefull as I...
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    Probs getting Hospital to commit on Dad's future care needs after broken hip??

    Hi everyone My Father (85) broke his hip in mid June, and has been on a "Rehab Ward" ever since. His mobility before the accident was poor, but he refused a walking aid (hence the fall). Physically he is recovering well but we had a terrible meeting to discuss his future where his only...