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    Mum has stayed!!!

    Hi everyone just thought I'd update you on my situation. MIL went for 2 weeks respite care on 19 Sept. had a hell of a morning getting her there, she was like a child having a tantrum, couldn't remember she had agreed to go, got very aggressive, abusive etc, told us she wished that every bit of...
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    Light at the end of a very long tunnel

    Thank you all soooooo very much for taking the time to reply, your kind words and thoughts are really appreciated, it makes me feel that I am not so bad after all!! I know that come next Tuesday when Mum goes into care I am going to experience the absolute guilt of guilt trips knowing that she...
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    Light at the end of a very long tunnel

    Hi everyone, at last I feel that there is a light at the end of my very dark tunnel!!MIL (94) is due to go for respite next Tuesday, hubby and I have taken the advice posted on my previous thread, taken the plunge and have spoke to the social worker regarding the home keeping Mum permanently as...
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    Feel the need to off load!

    Cate, seems like de ja vu reading your posting, been there done it etc etc, the only difference is that my MIL of 94 lives with us!!!!! We have been successful for the first time in getting respite for 2 weeks in June this year, MIL actually ENJOYED IT!! she is due for a further 2 week spell...
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    Full time residential care

    Thanks to you all for your messages they really do help, I have a drs appointment on 5 September so will ask for advice although on previous occasions all she has said is "its difficult coping with being a carer 24/7"!! I do feel so guilty having these thoughts, wishing she was dead, (this is...
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    Full time residential care

    It has been a while since I last posted a thread on this site, I needed advice as to how to get a very obstinate 94 MIL (who lives with us and has done so for 32 years) into respite care, and also to unload some of my anger and frustration regarding the officialdom and its systems. Well some...
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    AD and breathing problems

    Aine - Thanks for your input glad to know that I am not the only one experiencing this problem, MIL seen her doctor now and is being referred to a speech therapist. She has eaten fish and chips several times, including the day before her episode, this is her favourite meal! and has not had any...
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    AD and breathing problems

    Thanks for your comments Lynne, perhaps it will be worth mentioning to the doctor next time she calls re asthma, its the unpredictability we are having trouble coping with, sometimes she goes weeks without a problem then 3 times in less than a month, wierd, and wierder.
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    AD and breathing problems

    AD & breathing problems Thanks for your welcome thoughts Margarita, Mum has mostly meals that are "mushy" not requiring much chewing and mashed potato is a norm (hooray for Wiltshire Farm Foods whose menu and meals are fabulous). She is not asthmatic , we are now considering perhaps its her...
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    AD and breathing problems

    Hello again, I am hoping that someone out there can help with a frightening and distressing "breathing" problem MIL is currently experiencing (she is 93). MIL has had 3 visits this year already to the local A&E via ambulance due to her "choking fits" and has had several epsiodes at home here...
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    AD and breathing problems

    Hello again, I am hoping that someone out there can help with a frightening and distressing "breathing" problem MIL is currently experiencing (she is 93). MIL has had 3 visits this year already to the local A&E via ambulance due to her "choking fits" and has had several epsiodes at home here...
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    Another newbie

    Hello everyone, I have found this wonderful site and registered yesterday, how good it was to find other stories like mine and feel I am not alone in my situation. Will try to keep brief, hubby & I retired in May 2006, during the 32 years of our marriage we have had my in laws living with us...