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    Turning to people who I know understand - horrible horrible day...

    Thanks for the message - the POA is in but I'm abroad and the bank want me there in person!! Flying home at the weekend and then 10 more days of bank time (why they need that is another mystery in this journey that needs challenging!!!) and then I'll be able to breathe again!!!! atb
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    Turning to people who I know understand - horrible horrible day...

    Hi yes I have spoken to the OPG and they expedited it as much as they could but as it's an old EPA there is no shortcut sadly. I'll try the pensions as was leaving that waiting for the POA to be in as thought I had to have it so thanks for that. Roll on the 30th Jan when this should be sorted...
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    Turning to people who I know understand - horrible horrible day...

    It's so hard isn't it? Caught between a rock and a hard place financially for so long. And now the bank tells me it's going to be another 10 days before I get registered with them to access money. Here goes another £4600- I'm literally working to find the money for the care home and living day...
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    Turning to people who I know understand - horrible horrible day...

    Also re the phone it's very interesting as earlier she completely lost the use of the landline- dialling and holding etc and the mobile is long gone. But since being in the care home she finds ways and I think the brain is an amazing thing. She had help from another more able resident who has a...
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    Turning to people who I know understand - horrible horrible day...

    Ah no sadly she has it in big letters - or should I say numbers in her book that never leaves her hand - but nice thought!!
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    Turning to people who I know understand - horrible horrible day...

    Hi as many of you know who have read my other posts mum is in a care home and I work abroad. For no other reason than I am currently funding the £1100 a week until the POA is through I have to keep my job. Today mum managed to sneak into a room where there was a phone and she rang my mobile and...
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    DOLS tribunal

    Just for info - from the court of protection website - 217,235 applications for DoLS assessments were received by local authorities in the year ending March 2017, an increase of 11 per cent on the previous year.
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    DOLS tribunal

    P.s - for DOL tribunal, legally, your capacity to "decide" is irrelevant as is any power of attorney. Case law and judgements of the supreme and European court say that the hearing will have to happen. The persons views are taken into account regardless of their capacity when it comes to...
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    DOLS tribunal

    Hi I'm not sure if it helps but I am also currently awaiting a DOLs tribunal as mum constantly says she wants to go home. She was admitted from hospital to the care home after all the assessments etc but like your mum says she wants to go home so only a 3 mth DOL was put in place whilst they...
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    I just want to run away and never come back

    Hey red shoes I just thought I would add into this - I haven't been on for a while as I also work abroad and am in such a similar situation to you. This time 18 months ago mum was doing all the things you describe and like ur mum she was living in a retirement flat. It's hard for us to assess...
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    So how was your Xmas??

    Mine was just full of "take me home" from the care home from not just mum but her 3 friends too. Today she was much worse (they think an infection) and she turned very aggressive and abusive. Am just glad Christmas is over. So sad and such a difficult time not to try to compare to previous...
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    Oh the joys of making mum cry on Xmas eve

    Just a wee update - my sister who lives miles away tried to reinforce how upset I was today at all the findings and how hard it is to see mum in the t shirt from hospital but still no further on.... guess Christmas with no bath and a cheery smile is my aim for the morning!!!!
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    Oh the joys of making mum cry on Xmas eve

    Thanks. I spend ages reading all the posts so I already knew and already knew you are a special person who takes time for all of us who are here. You are a lovely person who reaches out to others and that is so special - my love and thoughts are with you often even though I don't post much...
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    Oh the joys of making mum cry on Xmas eve

    Ah you will be into Christmas ahead and chocolate probably isn't helping - but maybe it will be a comfort. My mum is Scottish too so we have that in common! Mums friends in the care home are treating me like a child too which is nice in it's own way. But like you mum asked me 4 times if it was...
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    Oh the joys of making mum cry on Xmas eve

    Thanks for that - I always try to say it's the illness not mum. But sometimes.... I just want to scream it's so unfair .... and then I remember that not everyone understand. But know you do xx
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    Oh the joys of making mum cry on Xmas eve

    Oooo no original only!! Tradition!! If mum wasn't hiding her medication as well as the drinks I had a small one planned - another abandoned idea as today went to hell!! Ah well onwards and upwards to Christmas Day with my dementia care home pals and mum!! Best conversations to be had with the...
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    Oh the joys of making mum cry on Xmas eve

    Welcome to the forum and I have to say that this place often saves me from the pits of sadness as everyone here knows exactly what it means when we say even the most ridiculous things. And whenever I'm sad (most days!!) I come here and always get friendship and comfort from people who know just...
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    Oh the joys of making mum cry on Xmas eve

    Oh. Noooooo chocolate was what stood out there !!!!!! It's my only comfort !!!!! Prosecco helps too.....
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    Oh the joys of making mum cry on Xmas eve

    Def regular with lots of ice!! Thanks for making me smile
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    Oh the joys of making mum cry on Xmas eve

    Thanks for the replies. This forum always is there for people - it's the best. Just sitting with tears trying to erase the repeat loop of mum standing like a child in the corner that's stuck in my mind! Pass the baileys!!!